There is a couple of thing to can do to get more information. I posted earlier this month about it

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/20595731-collecting-information-works

If he's meeting up with these people ...

Frequent visited places
interestin thing today... If your H has a iPhone you can see what locations he frequently goes to. Go to settings > privacy > location services (if it's activated) > system services > frequent locations .... Doesn't show addresses ... But if someone is visiting a location 70 times in a month it better be home or work... Just a thought

Get as much information you can. confrontation will only work if you have undisputed evidence.

Read a few posts on here.. They will help!

Thank you. I have read some of the posts on here and it helped. It is hard pretending like everything is ok when it is not!

Even though you don't think u have the upper hand you do. You know, and he doesn't know you do.

This forum has a whole thread to the "recon" period

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=71&page=1

My husband uses his cell phone for everything. Its not an I phone. Its a company phone and im scared to install anything like mentioned above. I want to but am scared. Ive been able to get into his accounts online except his skype account.

Get a GPS they have ones that can be attached to the underside of the bumper. Someone mentioned it on the forum link. Hire a PI? Follow him... Look at credit cards?

hang in there, it can be hard to hold on to the information without telling him when you don't have anything solid yet.. because they he will go black and find another way to do it..

I don't know why my brain works this way but I am horrible with snooping, but my therapist thinks its funny that I am so smart, whereas my husband, of course, thinks its disrespectful (really?)

Anyway, I used to log into icloud from a laptop and go the find my phone app and log in with his apple id to locate his phone, often times I could do this on my own phone... it is how I found out exactly where he was on DDAY...

he didn't like that...

next, if I was really upset, and being ignored-- I would log on to his find my phone, and put it in lost mode, or make it make a sound when found.. I would put something like "don't ignore your wife" on the screen where it says to put a phone number.. and I would put a password on his phone that "JustBhonest1" or "cheater4eva" , I used to also find him on dating sites-- especially plenty of fish because it is free, you can basically narrow down the search based off of everything you know and find him, picture or not... if you know enough... I think the worst thing I did, and I am not proud of it, because really I don't want to be a snooper... Is I had a suspicion he had a second phone, I found a receipt in his drawer that he had activated his phone, so I knew he had one, but with a go phone it can be hard to find the number... but I knew he probably had it on his gmail account... so I went to go try and get into his gmail.. and it said that I wasn't logging on from a home computer.. okay, I can fix that.. I got on to his laptop, tried again-- it gave me two options, answer the security questions or have a passcode sent to his old phone number. My lightbulb went off-- I was in charge of his old phone number because it was deactivated, just being held, I literally drove to ATT to put his old phone number on to my phone, when I got home, I had the text sent to his phone number-- now active on my phone, and I had the password... I got into his gmail, found the phone number, and also got into his facebook as well.. I cannot tell you how upset he was when I called him on his phone that I wasn't supposed to know he had, after 4 days of him not talking to me.. and said "We need to talk"... he was highly, highly upset.... but I thought of all that myself, I am probably crazy.. and again not proud of it, but you will find your ways...

^ seriously would be proud of myself... The only person upset about snooping is the CS. They've lied, put your health health risk, breaking up your marriage, I find it funny that you were the victim here. I applaud you.

I am a former CS and I am very sorry you are experiencing this. Very regretfully, I also had experience in online dating sites. Its a whole different world.

But, I'm confused as to why you are trying to find more things out. Isn't finding your H on 3 online dating sites enough? I just want to give you another perspective... If he has 3 profiles, he is definitely searching....for something....or has found it and wants more. He may be meeting women, not one in particular. That is the typical profile of someone who is married and on dating sites.

Jaymee is right, the only person that should be upset about snooping is the CS, he could very well be putting your health at risk. You already know he lied to you.

You shouldn't have to pretend that everything is ok. Its not. Empower yourself. You are worth more than this. Talk to him, tell him what you found, I'm sure he'll deny it, but it will open up a door for further investigation and communication.

Thanks Jaymee :) I like when I'm smart too lol..

The problem with just registering for sites can be explained away.. Just curious, I never contacted anyone, me and the guys were talking so I checked it out for a laugh... solid evidence that would stand up in court..

They have memory sticks now that you can order off eBay and other places online. You just stick it in the phone and it copy's all the information from the phone( text, emails, calls , location data etc.) Then you just plug it in to your computer and look at the information there. He'll never know you hacked his phone.

Goodness folks - if you know your husband is a cheater - why the digging for info? Isn't that like torture? - sounds like a world of madness. Isn't it easier to let the person go? I realize you invested a gazillion years married but what's a better option? To live with someone you can't trust? Sounds like not only the cheater has an issue - but the parties who becomes so engulfed in this investigative mode needs help as well if you ask me. It's okay to let people go. It's actually liberating freeing yourself from the BS. Try that instead.

I haven't read all the replies , but from experience I would tell you to gather all the evidence that you can and keep 'mum' about it. Talk to a divorce lawyer asap(even if you're not wanting to do it , yet) and take his advise on evidence gathering and/or how to protect yourself in case you do decide to secure a lawyer. You should cover your behind !!