Good for you. Take control of the situation. Your H is showing you her calls and text? That shows he is being as open and honest as he can. Sounds like you got an ow that just cant let it go. ( I got one of those here too) I hope she got the message loud and clear from you and hopefully that was her last ditch effort to come between you. Just be on guard and know that she may come back with more vengeance. I would consider a restraining order next. Isn't just crazy what kind of women some of our cheaters bring into our life's?? go figure...

Don't be surprised if he is playing you both. Track the calls and call the police. But if the phone is in HIS name there is nothing you can do. If he cancelled one phone, chances are he replaced it with another.
I don't want to burst your bubble...My H's whore would text, call and email. He said she wouldn't give up. We called her, emailed her. I called her job. Nothing stopped this women.
What I didn't know is he was making up stories, Lies! They had this whole secret code thing going on. He was allowed to say anything he wanted to her in front of me. She and I got into it once when he put us on a conference call to end the affair after lying to my face for 10 month. I've been threatened my his whore. She has pranked called me and emailed several time.
Bottom line...He has filled her head so full of lies she believes she is saving him from his crazy wife that forces him to be a part of a family he doesn't want.
Your H is the ONLY one that can control his OW. You can only choose if you want to live with someone else in your bed or not.

she is a liar...don't believe anything out of her mouth...i talked to several and they were apologetic (husband said i died), none of them protected him...they never said he said bad things about me...usually, the wife isnt the subject of conversation when with each other...she wishes the things she says are true, but you know him better,...get the order and fight for what you want...good luck, sheila

in most cases, mine at least, they can say such mean things to you because they don't give a damn about you. these woman don't care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. these woman are so desperate that they will take any man who shows any interest in them. they know they are low down and so they want to bring you down with them. the ow in my situation thought telling me the things she did would make me mad enough to leave him, but what gets me is why would she want a man who she knows would cheat on his family-stupid, stupid, stupid.

why don't the wives get a grip and HELP TO CHANGE THINGS IN MARRIAGES. QUIT BLAMING THE WOMEN WHO GET INVOLVED WITH THE MEN WHO ARE "WILLING PARTICIPANTS." don';t you get it? it's the men. THE HUSBAND IS THE COMMON DENOMINATOR. He only played you those messages because he is trying to make good with you. and believe me when i tell you this: i was involved with a married man who stated EMPHATICALLY that he was not married, that he just had friends. we started a whirlwind relationship...(SO FAR WHOSE FAULT IS IT?), as time passed on, i mean around 3 months, i got very suspicious, abut some things and pressed him on. i had to keep pressing HIM. not me! HIM. he finally said: i have someone i see more than most. still denying the truth. finally, after much pressure: he told me he'd been MARRIED 11 YEARS, WITH A CHILD, AND A MISTRESS. GET IT. A MISTRESS. chances are it did not start with the one he has now. Quit blaming the women. we only want what you want. A RELATIONSHIP. THEY ARE THE LIARS, MANIPULATORS, HEART BREAKERS, but the somehow you blame the other women. just because we are not the wife, our hearts are no less tender. he played those messages for you and believe me by the same token, he has done the same for his MISTRESS. I had tried and tried and tried and tried to get rid of the married asshole who tried to ruin my life with his lies and he just kept on pursuing me. he was telling me he was not attractive to his wife and was telling her i was pursuing him. IT'S A GAME. AND unless you start to take a HARD look at your husband, he will continue it with someone else. most of the cheaters are extreme NARCISSIST. they don't have feelings for the hurts and pains they bring upon others. he will continue to stay with you because he loves you on SOME LEVEL but he loves what he does. he will stay with you because you make it easy for him to stay even after he's shared his penis, his love, his affections for someone else. YOU ARE PROTECTING HIM. CHANGING HIS NUMBER. WHAT ABOUT A CHANGE IN HIS MORALS. TELLING HER YOU WILL GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AFTER THAT MAN HAS CAPTURED HER HEART. WHAT ABOUT SOME ACCOUNTABILITY ON YOUR HUSBAND! i called the wife of the man who was playing me hoping that it would put an end to things. I WAS CONSTANTLY TORMENTED. TALKING ABOUT KARMA . he pretended that i was the one pursuing. don't you know that three days after my conversation with his wife, he was back in my house, trying to convince me otherwise. NOTHING STOPS THESE MEN. THE RESTRAINING ORDER NEEDS TO BE PLACED ON THE HUSBANDS. IT'S HIS MISTRESS WHO PROTECTING HIM AND SO ARE YOU.

I would have to lean towards thinking that some men and ladies are so skilful at lying that he could be telling you one thing and her another. It is easier to makes excuses to her and get away with it. See if he is willing to go far enough to get a restraining order. If he waivers in the least you have reasonable doubt that he is still in contact with her. It might be time to check some email phones computers etc... There are lots of people here that can put you on the right tract to knowing one hundred percent for your self.

Ok, look. This woman has proved simply by her behavior of cheating with your husband in the first place that she is low class, will do anythingn to get what she wants, has zero morals, and is completely distrustworthy. You have SEEN FOR YOURSELF what she is sending your husband. He is trying to be honest and she is just desperate to get her way. DON'T TRUST A WORD THAT COMES OUT OF HER MOUTH. You already know that she is a liar.

Make it clear that neither you nor your husband have any interest in speaking with her ever again. Then save all calls and text messages on both of your phones. Go to the police and file a restraining order, and then file harassment charges. This woman is a psycho and obviously needs help. NAIL HER!!!

I think we all agree that you have no reason to trust the OW, simple as that.

However, why would you trust your H either?

Someone said that the reason not to trust her is because she's capable of having an affair, so she must be a liar.
Well, by that logic....

Before I discovered the whole truth about my ex's affair, he had me convinced that the OW was a psycho who forced him by blackmail to see her (she was his ex and and had a lot of 'goods' on him, so that was very plausable). My ex wanted desperately to keep me, so he blamed her for at least half.
She tried to tell me the truth but I wouldn't listen.
Well, six months later it turned out she was telling me the truth. She was being lied to, she thought he was getting back with her again, he told her he broke up with me (meanwhile we were more engaged and committed than ever)
He was cornered and confessed. Even though she's pretty crazy and unstable, she wasn't making it up.

The point is, even when he got the second chance at making it with me, even though I know that he loves me more than anything or anyone, he still lied to protect himself. He lied, he said, because he was afraid the whole truth would get him kicked out. And he was right.

She can't have him and she doesn't want you to have him either. She actually feels betrayed. It doesn't matter that you are the wife. To her he was fair game and he probably made promises to get in her pants. Who knows. He should tell her to get lost (in your presence), but in a nice way. He should tell her that he loves YOU and wants to work on the marriage. He should tell her to not contact you and him in any way from now on. If she doesn't get a restaining order against her. Change your phone numbers (don't publish them) and email addresses. If she manages to get hold of those again, something is up. And by this I don't mean she is a good PI. Just watch your back. The ow in my case pursued us overseas and was in my drive way early one morning. I used to get calls at weird hours and she laughed... I did not say anything. Just hung up. It stopped. Good luck.