honey relax...the whore's do that to make themselves feel better...my h didn't persue her either but she kept saying he did...the emails supported her taking advantage of him talking about wanting to save his marriage.

I'm glad you called and you should go and get a restraing order...it was the best thing my h ever did...it shut her down for good.

The whore in my case also tried to attack me and for what...keeping my husband...lol.

Don't let this take you down tonight...if your h has been transparent all she just did was prove she's a bitch to him...so relax and tell him you need a massage :)

Keep a record of all the calls she make to you and if you have the means, record them.

I don't mean to hurt you but I have been through this. Be very cautious. He is likely telling you one thing and her another.

If he is showing you the texts she is sending and being transparent then she is likely just trying to break you two up, so he will come back to her.

OW#2 did this to me, she threatened to tell me and actually called the house, but ended up not telling me. After he had told me she called, hung up and called back. Then when I told her she was not to call ever again she asked why the hell not so I told her he had told me everything. She got mad and then proceeded to tell me all the reasons why I should leave him. She also told me she should have known he wasn't the type to leave his family, mind you she also told me that she didn't want him because once a cheater always a cheater. She called back a week later too. The point I'm trying to make is she said pretty much everything she could think of to make me dump him. Get the restraining order, it just might save you a lot of headaches.

Yes, if he is showing you every thing, she is most likely trying to screw with you. Change cell phone #, both of you...and e-mails. You are giving this twat way too much power, and this is what she feeds off of. Your H also needs to call her with you on the phone, SO YOU CAN HEAR, telling her to leave you both the hell alone. Get a restraining order against her if she doesn't stop her attempts.

Get new phone#'s right away.. its worth it..

She is trying to get you to dump him.. I went throught this, and notice its a common game the OW play..

"he's a liar" blah... blah... blah.. he spent the night... blah... blah... blah.. and .. "you dont 'deserve' to be treated like this"... LMAO~

I agree with everyone else. She is just trying to break you all up. But what is so funny to me is the fact that she is telling you about how you shouldn't be with him and if she were you type of crap. Then why the hell is she stalking?!!! Duh! Makes no sense, she looks so stupid. If she really felt that way then she wouldn't bother. But she's pissed that she still lost in the end. Its easier said than done but F her.

I know this isn't going to make you feel better but I'm going to be totally TRUTHFUL. Let me start by saying this...SHE IS GOING TO TELL YOU EVERYTHING NOW..WHY CAUSE SHE WANTS YOU TO GET MAD, KICK HIM OUT AND SHE WILL BE AT THE CORNER READY TO PICK HIM UP. Such a low-life bitch and they use this and pregnancy as a last attempt in thier patheticness. I know you are probably fuming right now and I MYSELF WOULD KICK HIS ASS OUT WITHOUT EVEN SO MUCH AS ONE WORD OUTSIDE OF KICK BRICKS TRICK!!! But I'll give you advice of the lesson I learned...don't kick him out cause that's HER goal. Now....here is the part that will anger you more but I'm not going to sugar coat the truth. You no what your life consist of, He knows whatever you have shared with him out of love, and IF SHE KNOWS things that she shouldn't 9.9 out of 10 he's told her NUMEROUS things about you. It's the pussy symphaty trap. They disrespect you, tell lies on you and about you to the OW to gain her symphaty and along with that comes compassion and eventually sex. Mine told his OW secrets I hadn't even shared with my BEST FRIEND. A VERY LOW AND CALLOUS MOVE..ON TOP OF CHEATING ON YOU. Now I won't comment on what you should do for him..I'm sure you will come up with what needs to be done by following YOUR heart and praying to GOD to show you what you need to do. But for her.....If she is being ugly about it and lashing out at you because she has be rejected..then you must get HER under control. My husband is the one who bought his OW into MY life, therefore I wasn't about to lift not one damn finger controlling his bitch. I looked him dead in his eyes and told him clean up this shit!!! He filed a TPO against her and the sheriff's served her ass less than a week later. Hadn't heard from the pathetic whore since. HE CHOSE TO ADD HER TO YOUR LIFE AND HE WOULD BE THE ONE WHO CLEANS IT UP. How old are the kids cause you may have the upper had from JUMP. If they are younger than 15..that's all you need. I'd go down to the courthouse, make sure you think of all this right before you go in so the tears will come, then I stand in there shaking,crying and tell them that she calls constantly threatining you and harrassing you. Tell them you don't feel safe in your own home and that your a mad wreck when the kids are at school or outside playing cause you have no clue when she will strike. That is all they need. The courts don't play around when it comes to the innocent kids and they serve her ass accordingly. Make sure that you tell the judge she is harrassing your family...THIS INCLUDES YOUR FILTHY LOW LIFE HUSBAND TOO (BUT YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF HIS ASS LATER). Once they serve her if she calls you, drives past your house, text you, emails you, sends a smoke signal, ANY ATTEMPT TO CONTACT ANYONE IN YOUR FAMILY...she goes to jail!!!!! They will even tell her that if YOUR in a grocery store and she walks in..her ass better kick dirt and get the hell out of dodge. Also once the file the TPO...they will send you a court date. The intial order is for 30 days or until the court date..but the court date is the BEST..it's to see if you want to continue the TPO for a full YEAR!!! and I would do it!!! As for your husband I'll let you decide the best actions for him...but if it were me..by the time I'm thru with his ass he'll be too damn scared to cheat or he will learn to better MAINTAIN HIS SIDE WHORES!!

Oh and something VERY VERY IMPORTANT that will help you in the long run. If you have your own cellphone, don't tell your husband...but send any and all texts that she sent to your cellphone. Most companies can mail you or you can go online to view all texts sent and received. This will solidify the request for TPO or restraining order. Do you have a recorder that you can get on your housephone to record the conversations? BOTTOM LINE anything and everything she does I would keep record. You got show these bitches that they can be BEAT at thier own games. What do you plan on doing with mister loosey goosey? Personally I would drag his ass..how dare you cheat...but since you did you didn't even have ENOUGH decency to make sure I wouldn't have to deal with your garbage. To me it's a whole other ballgame when the OW feels bold enough to approach me or call me. And what angers me is I KNOW A FEW people who have DIED behind a man palying games with more than one woman and one was not stable and killed his pregnant girlfriend on the porch one day as she was leaving her man's house. Now his girlfriend and the baby are DEAD!!! That's why once I find out that his need to bust a nut is more important than the life of my child and mine..then he'll have hell to pay from that day on. His best bet is just to move onto his next relationship cause I'm a crude bitch as is!!! Good luck girlfriend.....at minimum I would get a TPO or restarining order and stop the whore in her tracks. She should be ashamed, but any broad that can lift her skirt to a married man has NO SHAME.

I'm in a similar situation. My H has been completely transparent and now she's trying to stir the pot. It's not going to work.

?? just don't let her get you all coo coo... if you don't believe him check things out... don't be quick to believe everything she says. She might still want him..I don't get that she is saying he pursues me when she is the one calling... If she doesn't want him why is she going after him and why is she putting you down saying ugly things? If she is so concerned for you why is she pursuing him? sorry but thats f'd up of both of them.... take the advice about recording or printing or whatever you can do for proof just in case you find out your H is pursuing. What did he say when you said you called the ow? Take the legal advice given here it may be of some help later whether or not he is being honest.. for your sake I hope he is : ) Don't believe anything until you know for sure... some women do want the woman to leave their H like the Ow in my case I had left to work in the church office she walked into my room and told my H get up and leave right now or I'm telling he said I'm not leaving my family she said get them and leave, too. then she said never mind leave them here and you leave.... When we left the church grounds..... He told me what happened that was the day everything came out she did tell because he didn't leave like she wanted.... I made sure I got some clothes and I took all of my family I wasn't gonna do what she wanted. It was MY family she was just intruding and he was stupid for giving it up to her. DumA**(that was to both of them) anyway.... yeah I purposely didn't make him go seperately and everyone.... knew I left with my H in that church.... thats what I wanted. A couple of people brought it up in front of me and I said he's my H and I'm not gonna just abandon him.

"Said that SHE broke off with HIM and that he wouldnt take no for an answer and still pursues her. That cant be true???? Can it????"

Seriously, it's very much possible she's telling the truth. The best way for a man to make you believe he's being good is by feeding you bits of truth to cover his arse.

Also note, not every OW is remorseful. She could be resentful that he didn't leave you for her. that could have caused her to dump him (if she really did the dumping).

Either way, I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

Thank you all so much for your replies and advice. You all really helped me calm down and stay level headed. I am a kind person and I have been having trouble with the feelings of hatred I feel toward this person. I know - it takes two to tango _ but I read the emails from when she was trying to snare him and she really came at him unrelentlessly with all guns blazing. He is still just as wrong as she is - it just makes me hate her. At least him I get to be angry at!! And he shows remorse and tries to make amends. She just goes on with her wicked life. Anyway, I hope she wont be my problem anymore - we have had no more incoming contact since I threatened to call the police.

Truthfully, I wouldn't trust either of them. She wants him to leave you for her so she can "win," and he's lied to you and cheated on you, so no one here is trustworthy. I will say the fact that he's being transparent is a good sign, and the way she's behaving right now is not going to be very attractive to him and will drive a wedge between them, so that is good. You need to behave as rationally as possible so that he sees you as the sane one here. He'll start to see how crazy she is. If you think he might still be pursuing her, do some snooping to find out the truth. Best of luck to you. What a b***h she is!

The ow in my case called me one night 5 times. She told me stories of how she wanted our marriage to work and she had wanted to be my friend. She also told me that she is just like a guy. What the hell? But anyways, when she said that she would be willing to share my h I told her the difference between her and me was that I was his wife. Stick to your guns honey and don't let the hoe bring you down. The one I am dealing with has said many mean things to me, but I just figure that she has to try to make herself feel good some how. And if she is this way, sooner or later he will see it too. I have come to the conclusion that this is what they do. It's their MO! It will be o.k. Don't let her get you down and push your buttons!