I hate seeing a thread asking for help with a 0 in the replies.

You didn't screw up. You did what most everyone here has done at one point or another.

Does his lack of answer men it's over? Well, frankly I have been reading your posts and I think you know where it stands. I can hear it in your words that you don't want it to be over. I know you are looking for some hope somewhere but MY hope for you is that you see you deserve so much more than this.

Stay strong. Don't text again and begin to take steps to take care of you.

What Stateofchaos said. Not much I can add to that except to offer support and understanding.

I think stateofchaos said it exactly perfect. It is a very painful journey and it is going to take a lot of time but work on healing yourself.

I completely agree with state. It's going to take awhile for your heart to catch up with your head, but you really need to start telling yourself that you do not need this in your life, you deserve better, and you WILL be okay. BETTER, in fact. Create a positive mantra and repeat it to yourself over and over. Every day. Resist urges to text him. Whenever you think of doing it, find something else to do. Come here. We don't care if you post 50 times a day saying you want to text. Do that instead. (Though you might wanna keep it in the same thread, lol). Baby steps. One day at a time. Stay strong. Do it for YOU.

(((HUGS)))

I guess you guys are trying to sugar coat it to me and do really think its over. Thanks

Well, if you knew my story, you would know that I am the last person to say that anything is etched in stone. However, your profile says that he has cheated on you multiple times in 3 1/2 years. This says to me that he is a selfish prick that doesn't care about anyone but himself. Is that what you want for yourself? Someone who will continue to betray and hurt you over and over again? He may very well come back to you eventually, but it will probably be because he knows he can do whatever he wants, treat you as badly as he likes, and you will always be there. That is what people like him do.

What we are saying, without even knowing you very well, is that you are worth so much more than that! Sometimes support comes in the form of telling you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear. We want you to be happy and healthy. It just doesn't sound like this "man" can help you with that.

Big (((HUGS))) to you. I know you are in much pain and I am so, so sorry for that.

I'm not a big fan of sugar coating to be honest.

I don't know if it's over. I'm saying instead of focusing on his next move make your own and make that move for yourself.

I do know that YOU have the power to decide if he continues to treat you this way just as much as he does.

I understand thanks guys. I guess since he has been out of town and I haven't really talked to him since all this happened I would love to just to have some closure I guess..

Let me just say that I feel terrible for you. You sound like you are in a lot of pain.

Facing up to a bad situation is hard on the toughest people, and us average humans have to go through a period of pain. I hope you get through it as easily as possible.

Oh this is so hard. Only, I think, on some level, you do know it's done. You just may not have accepted it. That is the hard part.

You go from 'it's done?' to 'it's really done...whoa...'

We are there for you. Really. Sending support.

As the others have said, he cheated a few times. Perhaps, next time around, you will be treated as a rare gem.

Sending you support, L~