Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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don87 10/15/2016

Last night I got blackout drunk. I ended up going home with a girl I dated a few years ago and I passed out in her bed. Then sometime during the night I remember I started rubbing her breasts. Or she took my hand and made me rub her breasts. I don't really remember. Should I tell my girlfriend about this? Is this considered cheating? I feel really bad about this. Thank you.

YouGonnaEatThat 10/15/2016

I would tell your girlfriend. It's better to get it out now than for her to find out later down the road however way. I personally would consider this cheating but she may or may not. It may also be better for you since it's getting a weight off your chest.

betrayedtodeath 10/16/2016

Being in another woman's bed regardless of what happened is cheating. Would you consider it a breach to your relationship if she was in bed with a guy she dated a while ago and touched his penis?

don87 10/16/2016

Thank you for your comments. My girlfriend already knows I passed out in that girls bed, I told her right away, but she doesn't know about the other part. And yes, I would consider it a breach to our relationship if she did the same. So I guess I'm fucked. Next stop rehab.

sexysub56 10/17/2016

First or all, stop drinking. And it was cheating.

klm747 10/17/2016

Look, I don't have the luxury of blaming the alcohol. I remember everything I do and I make conscious decisions at the time, however wrong they may be, when I
am completely smashed. Its hard for me to relate to someone who blacks out or changes into a different person when they drink. My partner is that person. I can forgive incidences, but I will not tolerate continuing this type of destructive behavior. He no longer drinks to the point of dumbfuckery. If you are really honest about feeling bad, and you have no intention of doing anything with this other girl, I don't think its a big deal. Just watch your limit from now on. Tell her about the boob grab, or don't. If you do, be prepared to lose her over something that you say is innocent. How did you end up at this girl's place anyway? Was that where the party was? Don't put yourself in possibly compromising situations... and then drink.

don87 10/17/2016

Thanks for the replies. I told my girlfriend the whole story. She's not happy about what happened, obviously, but she doesn't want to break up over this. I still feel like shit though. We've had relationship problems before because of my drinking. I thought those days were behind me but clearly I was wrong. Will be seeing my therapist tomorrow, and I will also be seeking professional help with my drinking. Thanks again for the replies.

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