In March, my husband has begun an affair with a coworker.  He  just turned 50 and we have been “happily married” 27 years and 30 together.  We are recently empty nesters and my husband is not happy at his job.   Lots of changes lately.   However, we have always been close and our sex life has always been great.  So, this was a shock when I found a text on July 1, which was on our 2nd day of our family vacation.   Once I confronted him, he left me and our 2 grown daughters and went home.   Our entire extended family was there.   When we got home, he left and has not returned back to home and has no desire to reconcile with me.  He said he has not been happy for a long time.    This is so out of character for him, as his family was his world.  He said the new women “laughs at his jokes, they love the same kind of music and she makes him feel alive.”  I thought I should be the one who is angry and asking him to go away and he would be begging to reconcile, but that is not the case.  He is angry at me and says it is over.   My counselor told me to give him space, but he has hired a lawyer and is seeing him tomorrow.  I feel he has all of the cards.   This is devasting for me.   Any advice here?