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Wife and I (bs) were talking this morning. I shared with her my thoughts on staying in love and sustained attraction in a marriage. The marriage requires work to maintain the loving attraction.
She feels that feeling of love and attraction will just be there and when its gone then its gone.
Doesn't sound to promising for hopes of rebuilding. She has already told me she is not in love with me and lost the feelings of attraction. Makes sense why no forward progress has been made in past year.
Anyone else have an opinion? ?
She feels that feeling of love and attraction will just be there and when its gone then its gone.
Doesn't sound to promising for hopes of rebuilding. She has already told me she is not in love with me and lost the feelings of attraction. Makes sense why no forward progress has been made in past year.
Anyone else have an opinion? ?
Unfortunately, if she doesn't see it that way, her feelings probably wont change.
I think anything worth having is work-one has to put forth the energy and effort to keep the fires burning. It's a choice. It sounds like she isn't willing to do. Having two kids would be enough incentive for me to exhaust all avenues.
But I also think kids shouldn't be the glue to a relationship-it has to be able to sustain on it self. But you both have to want it.
It's a hard pill to hear, "I'm not in love with you-and then to hear your spouse is no longer attacted to you-is awful and very hurtful.
Sending you support!
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I am not sure what to say about her feelings but do fear they wont change if that is her outlook My situation is kind of opposite. If I fully believe my CS wife she is very much in love with me and attracted to me and I am the one that has lost that love an attraction. I guess it was kinda "just there" all along until life can crashing down and now I am struggling hard to find it. While I do have "love" for my wife that I find is similar to that of what I have for other family members I am not "in love" with her. As far as attraction when I can make myself push the affairs aside I can absolutely see that she is very physically attractive and that many parts of her life are attractive (she is successful, a pretty good mom, enjoys some of the same things I do etc) but I also struggle to find myself attracted to her because of the thoughts of all the bad infiltrate in.
I have not given up working on the marriage. I take the til death do us part very seriously. This was the lead in to her answering this way. I ask her how seriously she takes her wedding vows. She then told me that she felt it was unfair to ask that and felt as though I am pressuring her or making her feel guilty. I explained there is no intention to guilt her it was just a question. She then said it scares her that she has fallen out of love with me and feels no attraction toward me. This is when I explained to her alot of the reading I have done says trust, love and attraction can be found again through the rebuilding process but it takes work. At which time she said that it should not take any work to be in love nor feel attracted to the spouse it should just be there. At this point I felt totally dejected and deflated because what this says to me is no amount of trying on my part will make a difference when she is operating with this mindset.