Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
So today my ex best fiend e- mailed me a sorry note here is what I wrote to her, schould I send it?
Sorry for the long post!
Julie,
I dont think you can even come close to understanding how deeply you and Donovan have hurt me. All the deception and lies... I can not even describe how numb I feel. I have lost trust and all faith in people because of what you did to me. I am remembering all the things you would say to me and I realize the extend of it all. It really takes my breath away sometimes. Like when you would say morning sex and coffee you really meant sex just you would have sex with him and coffee with me. Or when you would cuddle up to me and then he would cuddle up to me, that was not because either of you wanted to be close to me, you just found a way to be close to each other while I was there. You could have stopped texting him or calling him, you could have only come over when he was at work...you could have done so much. And dont tell me you are so madly in love that you cant live without each other anymore, not after a few month...You told me you tried to break it off with him and that nothing had happened for a few weeks cause you knew it was wrong. Well I am pretty sure you did cut him off, but because you wanted him to choose. I saw you write him a text telling him to not get an apartment because you wanted him to move in with you instead. I know you are still lying, you told Dennis that he is only taking a break from me and that you are letting him stay cause he is youre friend. Even that night you said: you dont love him and the next day you send him a text saying I super love you. And if you are truly sorry you should not have let him move in, you should have told him to go home and try to fix it. You would make him get his own place and try to figure it out. I think you two either hate me or you dont have a heart, I dont know how else you could have done what you did? When at the beach I told you how much in love I am with him. I dont even know how the two of you can be happy together now. You looked into my eyes and told me nothing happened you swore to me that night and the sad thing is I actually believed you. I did because I didnt think anyone could do something so cold. And he slept in front of my couch and was so scared to loose me, and he was holding my hand telling me he couldnt live without me. Oh what a fool I was. And now he is telling me it was all an act? For what?
And the whole time he was with you he was making love to me, not just having sex....I know now that you only asked me if we had sex every day cause you were jealous and you just had to know, well your rosy cheek theories is bologne, cause half the time you were wrong. And as for the children... you should have thought of that before you made your choice, remember you told me that you couldnt come to Tur*** night anymore cause you had to protect them, well I have to protect mine from people like you. What are you doing to Analise, you are teaching her its ok to do what you did, she might not get it yet but she will in a few years, do you want her to grow up thinking its ok to steal another womans husband? Oh god I love him so much. My heart aches so much. Not only for him, also for you. I trusted you I told you everything. I opened my home to you, let you stay here and you had sex with him in our bed? How could you?
Now I know that is why you wanted me to get drunk all the time so I would pass out and you could have fun with him. And I stood up for you when everybody would tell me there was something going on between you two I said no way, when everyone would tell me you just brought dates over for show so I wouldnt catch on, I said you guys are crazy , not Julie.
I want to not love him anymore, I want to get angry and hate both of you but I cant. All I am is sad. I have never felt such despair in my life. The people who I love the most really dont care about me at all. At least that is what your actions are telling me. You would not even come and talk to me last night, thats how much you care?
What is wrong with me, am I not nice enough, am I not smart enough, pretty? What is it that made it so easy for you to be around me when you knew the entire time what you were doing? You took my childrens father away from them and I realize that it takes two, but maybe if you would have stopped, then he could have focused on us and then just maybe he would have realized that he loves us still. I never had a chance to try and fix our marriage you took that chance away from me. Believe it or not until a few month ago we were happy, in June he send me a text telling me that I am the love of his live and if he was sleeping with you then at that point it may have only been a sex thing and if you would have let it go then maybe things would be different now.....I dont know if I can ever forgive you, I hope so, because I dont want to be bitter.
Sorry for the long post!
Julie,
I dont think you can even come close to understanding how deeply you and Donovan have hurt me. All the deception and lies... I can not even describe how numb I feel. I have lost trust and all faith in people because of what you did to me. I am remembering all the things you would say to me and I realize the extend of it all. It really takes my breath away sometimes. Like when you would say morning sex and coffee you really meant sex just you would have sex with him and coffee with me. Or when you would cuddle up to me and then he would cuddle up to me, that was not because either of you wanted to be close to me, you just found a way to be close to each other while I was there. You could have stopped texting him or calling him, you could have only come over when he was at work...you could have done so much. And dont tell me you are so madly in love that you cant live without each other anymore, not after a few month...You told me you tried to break it off with him and that nothing had happened for a few weeks cause you knew it was wrong. Well I am pretty sure you did cut him off, but because you wanted him to choose. I saw you write him a text telling him to not get an apartment because you wanted him to move in with you instead. I know you are still lying, you told Dennis that he is only taking a break from me and that you are letting him stay cause he is youre friend. Even that night you said: you dont love him and the next day you send him a text saying I super love you. And if you are truly sorry you should not have let him move in, you should have told him to go home and try to fix it. You would make him get his own place and try to figure it out. I think you two either hate me or you dont have a heart, I dont know how else you could have done what you did? When at the beach I told you how much in love I am with him. I dont even know how the two of you can be happy together now. You looked into my eyes and told me nothing happened you swore to me that night and the sad thing is I actually believed you. I did because I didnt think anyone could do something so cold. And he slept in front of my couch and was so scared to loose me, and he was holding my hand telling me he couldnt live without me. Oh what a fool I was. And now he is telling me it was all an act? For what?
And the whole time he was with you he was making love to me, not just having sex....I know now that you only asked me if we had sex every day cause you were jealous and you just had to know, well your rosy cheek theories is bologne, cause half the time you were wrong. And as for the children... you should have thought of that before you made your choice, remember you told me that you couldnt come to Tur*** night anymore cause you had to protect them, well I have to protect mine from people like you. What are you doing to Analise, you are teaching her its ok to do what you did, she might not get it yet but she will in a few years, do you want her to grow up thinking its ok to steal another womans husband? Oh god I love him so much. My heart aches so much. Not only for him, also for you. I trusted you I told you everything. I opened my home to you, let you stay here and you had sex with him in our bed? How could you?
Now I know that is why you wanted me to get drunk all the time so I would pass out and you could have fun with him. And I stood up for you when everybody would tell me there was something going on between you two I said no way, when everyone would tell me you just brought dates over for show so I wouldnt catch on, I said you guys are crazy , not Julie.
I want to not love him anymore, I want to get angry and hate both of you but I cant. All I am is sad. I have never felt such despair in my life. The people who I love the most really dont care about me at all. At least that is what your actions are telling me. You would not even come and talk to me last night, thats how much you care?
What is wrong with me, am I not nice enough, am I not smart enough, pretty? What is it that made it so easy for you to be around me when you knew the entire time what you were doing? You took my childrens father away from them and I realize that it takes two, but maybe if you would have stopped, then he could have focused on us and then just maybe he would have realized that he loves us still. I never had a chance to try and fix our marriage you took that chance away from me. Believe it or not until a few month ago we were happy, in June he send me a text telling me that I am the love of his live and if he was sleeping with you then at that point it may have only been a sex thing and if you would have let it go then maybe things would be different now.....I dont know if I can ever forgive you, I hope so, because I dont want to be bitter.
hope it goes well. take care