First welcome and I hate having to say that to newcomers.. but you come to the right place.

You need to read alot of the post here, older post and new post. Since you are new, you are in the beginning, it is hard. You have to start taking care of you... Do not anything right away. first your spouse have to own up to the cheating. BUT just so you know you are not alone.... POST POST when you need too....

Hi Caseyk and regrettfully, Welcome.
Time to have some serious communication with your hubby.
Let him know that the cheating is unacceptable to you.
Let him know that it is unbelievably hurtfull.
Ask him if he is able to recommit by being open, honest and faithful.
See if he is remorsefull and willing.
Keep coming back here for more help and advise.

I'm sorry that you are here, but happy that you are seeking support.

You need to confront your husband about his cheating behavior and inform him that you are not accepting of his adultrous behavior and that he needs to make a decision. If he decides to go with his affair, it was meant to be. My ex-boyfriend was on every singles website you can think. It said a lot about him, not be. I let him go. Guess what? He is still on dating websites. He has an addictive personality. Good ridance. Good luck to you.

Thanks guys. I'm a little okay now. I've gotten some time to think, and maybe i got tired of crying. I have no more energy to cry anymore.

In counselling, my therapist said, he has been selfish, and i have been too self-less. So I should take care of myself first. So that's what i'm going to do now.

I told my H, he screwed it up, and he has to fix it. I've given enough for this relationship, and i'm taking time off and doing what makes me happy, and taking care of me.

Good for you. Taking care of yourself is crucial for whatever comes next.
Overcoming infidelity is possible if extremely difficult. You need to be very clear what you need for you to consider staying, if that's what you choose to offer, and if he chooses not to fulfill those needs, it's his choice. Just remember. HE was the one to choose those actions and they have NOTHING to do with you. He's the one broken. Now is the time for you to evaluate what you need for your happiness and work towards it.

Welcome and I seen your other post about what to wear..lol Well I agree you need you time and he needs to know what he did to you and he needs to see you happy. If he sees you happy then it will hurt a bit more and communicate. My counselor suggested communication and talking, I ofcourse took that to mean yelling because I thought the louder I got then he would realize that is how much he hurt me..it made me feel better after doing it so works for me. I wish you strength and courage..you will get through this.

You have a long road ahead of you but try to get some understanding as quick as possible about what you want to do. Stay with him or not! It's a process. You'll cry,feel angry,want to know details, the whys and how's,who is this other person. Remember,he will try to avoid what he can and try to place blame on you. Cheaters seem to always find fault in the other person like not enough attention, you don't fix your hair the way you used to,you don't dress sexy enough,your cooking is bad. My point is the excuses can get ridiculous. Cheaters are infamous for not facing what they have done. We're here so let us know how you are doing.