Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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PleaseStopThePAIN 01/25/2018

I feel like my husband is having an affair with her co worker. But he is still insisting that they are only friends. I dont know what to do?

StormPetrel 01/29/2018

I think it is very important to first protect yourself - in every way.

Be sure you have a handle on your finances, you need to know your legal rights. You want your child to be taken care of financially. The list goes on.

You need to find out as much as you can about the Affair Partner. Do not be afraid to out the A to the AP's husband.

As difficult as it is, you have to confront your H as soon as you are ready.
Sex is powerful and it bonds the two people together. Oxytocin is a bonding hormone that is created by sex and when you have that baby, too!

You want that A to end. The sooner the better.

If you want to stay married, you H has to go to individual counseling first.
Cheaters will just lie in marriage counseling, so save that for later.

This sucks. I am sorry. We are all here to support you.

catinhat 02/04/2018

I felt my husband was having an affair, I had the same dreams of him and this affair more nights than not. Strange dreams of a women I knew who’s name ended up being the same name my husband was cheating on me with. Unfortunately for me, he was cheating. My instinct was real & the affair went on for years prior to my discovery of the truth. He went back to this girl after I found out the first time. I found out again. The only thing I can say is trust your instincts. Prepare your self emotionally for the truth. It will not be such a surprise when the truth comes out. It hurts like hell but have faith that the truth will surface one day!

AirportLady 02/04/2018

Hi. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been going through it myself. I caught him because his text messages on our shared account went from less than 200 in a month to over 1100. I looked at the phone log and 99% went to one number. A number I didn't recognize, by the way. Long story short, I ended up putting the number into the Facebook search, and some woman he worked with was the match. I was devastated. You may have to do some detective work, but if you really suspect your husband is being unfaithful, it may be the only way to get the answers you need. Very few unfaithful spouse are going to outright admit it. I wish you luck in your situation, and I hope your suspicions are wrong about your husband.

happyonislands 02/09/2018

I’m so sorry. This is an emotional rollercoaster for you. Hang in there! This is tough. However, do you have a trusted friend that you can talk that can provide perspective or insight?
Good luck! I wish you all the best.

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