Is your daughter his? If so, maybe you can give your relationship another try. Unless he is completely honest with you, it will be hard for you guys to move on. He needs to tell you everything you want to know. This would be the first step.

Thank you. Yes, she is his. I ask him for all the details and tells me I don't need to know because it is the past. I need to know so I know what I'm working with. Plus I'm left with so many questions and he won't answer them. I keep finding myself checking his phone because I want answers. The women still text him but he doesn't answer because they are blocked and he hasn't figured out how to view them. And when they do they break my heart. Tonight the one I know of texted him asking what she should do with the stuff he left there.

So sorry what ur going through. Don't blame urself. And don't allow him to put the blame on you. This was and is 100 % him. I'm sorry but what he told you is probably only 10% of the truth and by the sounds of it he has not completely broken with them. Also he doesn't sound renorsefull at all. It's an absolute must to be renorsefull and to answer all questions and tell the full truth. You cannot move on if he doesn't. Him telling you it's the past it's not important that doesn't work. I recommend both individual therapy. For him he needs to read some good literature on how to behave if he wants to safe this marriage. If he's not open to change or doing wirk than don't bother he's only gonna treat u like a door mat and do it again and tgats not healthy for ur kid to grow up in. Sorry it doesn't sound very good on his side. I would definitely recommend d you to start eirking on you and your own issues and your self worth etc so that if it comes to that you feel strong enough to kick him out. If in the mean time he shows his true remorse and hard work great who knows it might be fixable but the way he behaves bow ur setting urself up for too much pain don't let him!

He's not saying the things a penitent cheater would say. He's minimizing what happened, saying it would be stupid to say no to something, not being completely forthright. With your mental health issues, you guys need professional help. If he'll get it, you could save your relationship. Without it, I'd say it's just a matter of time before he cheats again.

It's hard when there is children involved. Let me just say make sure when you're asking questions that you really want to know the answers and that the answers are something you can deal with at time. I found out three weeks ago my husband cheated(we have two kids and I'm pregnant with our third). I asked him a million questions, I asked the same questions over and over again. He answers them (honestly idk but I'd like to believe so) without getting mad, without yelling. He accepted the blame even when I tried to take some of it myself. Let me tell you though there are some questions I wish I didn't ask, there are some questions I wish I didn't have the answers to. Honestly yes some questions needed to be asked but I wish I would of really thought about the ones I truly needed to know and the ones that were better left unanswered. Some of them have served me no purpose and I've just used them to torture myself and the images that came with them I wish I could make them go away. I still have so many questions that come to mind everyday but I've stopped asking and I actually told my husband the other day not to answer any more of my questions because the ones I have left to ask I honestly don't need to know or really want to know the answers. I'd start focusing on yourself and your daughter, start doing things for you. Things you enjoy. This is s journey i wish no one had to be on. It's a crazy emotional rollercoaster one that I want to get off of. Yesterday was the first time since I found out that I didn't cry, I felt good and happy for most of the day. I was able to not think about and the images didn't take over my mind yesterday. Today was a different story, the stupid images and pictures came back and I had a good cry only once today though. if you want to work on this though he needs to get to the point where he takes the blame, and will talk to you about it, also get therapy and std testing. He also has to cut all ties with these women and be completely open with you, he needs to let you have full access to everything.

I seriously just laughed out loud!!! If these men actually read any of our posts! (I say men because I have never read where a woman has said this to a man) “you don’t need to know, it’s in the past” “ just move on already” because he has... “we are just friends” “nothing happened” “it’s just oral sex” uh well thats sex right?? You went to “talk” well when was the last time your man (oh hell my man) just wanted to talk with you. What the hell was he going to talk to her about?
I find it’s interesting that this is your fault. My couslor said if he comes out and blames you, it is hopeless. I was very nervous... My CS never once blamed me. He took 100% of the blame. However initially he didn’t want to talk about it because “it was in the past” oh what last month is in the past? Well unless it was before we were married it’s not far enough in the past

http://www.lindajmacdonald.com/HOW_TO_HELP_YOUR_SPOUSE_HEAL_FROM_YOUR_AFFAIR--ljm2.doc

This book helped him pull his head out of his butt!
How to help your spouse heal from your affair.. by Linda MacDonald

Don't marry this guy. He's a cheater and unrepentant. I get that a kid is involved but it only make sense to continue if the cheater is truly repentant and changes, otherwise you are trading financial stability or emotional stability.

From what you've shared so far, he is going to be really bad for your life, child's life, and your mental health issues.