Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi everyone, I wrote before about my H who had an online affair with a Russian woman and finally went to visit her during what was supposed to be a vacation with my family. While we were on a 50th anniversary celebration cruise,which my H claimed he could'nt attend because of work. He chose to go to Russia instead and blow more $ that we didn't have and visit this woman. He has run up a huge creditcard debt over the years from irregular paychecks, unemployment and who knows what else.
After separating from him for a meer two weeks, I finally agreed to speak to him. He agreed to consolidate the debt ( which he promised to do before). He let me take his passport and creditcards and agreed to stop speaking with her on line. He claimed he saw what he was losing and told her that he couldn't leave his family.
We have been very honest with each other and have worked as a team on everything for 2 weeks or so. The problem is he lives in PA and I live in GA with our 2 kids. He is there because of his job. Everyone tells me we are doomed to fail because of the distance between us. I probably shouldn't even want him anymore but I do. Last night I tried to get him to reasure me that he was returning my loyalty and he couldn't!
He is still talking to her! He claims he loves me but he cries and says he doesn't know why he's doing this. He is driving down and we are going to counceling on Saturday but I don't know how often we'll be able to. Should I buy into the we are doomed to fail philosophy? I should be more angry and I am but I'm more afraid of seeing my family break up. I would appreciate some words of wisdom.
After separating from him for a meer two weeks, I finally agreed to speak to him. He agreed to consolidate the debt ( which he promised to do before). He let me take his passport and creditcards and agreed to stop speaking with her on line. He claimed he saw what he was losing and told her that he couldn't leave his family.
We have been very honest with each other and have worked as a team on everything for 2 weeks or so. The problem is he lives in PA and I live in GA with our 2 kids. He is there because of his job. Everyone tells me we are doomed to fail because of the distance between us. I probably shouldn't even want him anymore but I do. Last night I tried to get him to reasure me that he was returning my loyalty and he couldn't!
He is still talking to her! He claims he loves me but he cries and says he doesn't know why he's doing this. He is driving down and we are going to counceling on Saturday but I don't know how often we'll be able to. Should I buy into the we are doomed to fail philosophy? I should be more angry and I am but I'm more afraid of seeing my family break up. I would appreciate some words of wisdom.
Things are desperate in Russia - especially for women. If he is having any contact with her, then she is likely playing on his emotions (I don't mean love, per se, but men are quite compassionate for the most-part). It would be hard to just ignore her if she was doing this. It's a possibility that comes to my mind at least.
If he is making that much of an effort, then I have to think that he is still in this. But your ultimatum needs to be firm. Either he commits to your terms, or her doesn't. He doesn't get to make his own terms... somewhere in between... period.
He is acting so irrationally and he is obviously obsessed and addicted to this women. He has some personal issues like communication ability. He has always 'frozen' with women but says he's comfortable with her. He even says he has a 'shield' with me. I don't think I ever gave him a reason. A few people have suggested that maybe he has Aseberger's syndrome. I will be looking into this.