Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
It has been 5 month since I found out about the affair and things are going pretty good. Since then my H has done all he can to show me he is sorry and that he loves me.
Here is the thing, the rodeo is coming to town and the company he works for is going be part of it. That means he is going to work at the rodeo from 12 to 9pm every day and the thought of that is driving me crazy...all these women in tight jeans, working late, drunk girls...I know it is crazy but how do I get over this insane jealousy? He also hired a secretary that is 25....I want him to fire her..Well not really because I know that is crazy, but it just makes me so uncomfortable. I know in my head that I have no control over what he does, hell he was doing it in my house with me sleeping in the next room....I just have this fear that any woman he gets in contact with is the next potential one...I dont want to be like that. I feel so irrational. Any thoughts on how to get over this or how to deal with those feelings?
Here is the thing, the rodeo is coming to town and the company he works for is going be part of it. That means he is going to work at the rodeo from 12 to 9pm every day and the thought of that is driving me crazy...all these women in tight jeans, working late, drunk girls...I know it is crazy but how do I get over this insane jealousy? He also hired a secretary that is 25....I want him to fire her..Well not really because I know that is crazy, but it just makes me so uncomfortable. I know in my head that I have no control over what he does, hell he was doing it in my house with me sleeping in the next room....I just have this fear that any woman he gets in contact with is the next potential one...I dont want to be like that. I feel so irrational. Any thoughts on how to get over this or how to deal with those feelings?
i can sympathize. it's a hard situation for all of us. some days are better than others. I have always been a rock for my family, the one that confides others and trucks through tough times. This is so diffferent, for the first time I feel overwhelmed with my hurt and various emotions from the affair my h had. since you are not around people that can help you, you really need to reach out for help and find some self help books, they are great. one that has helped us is, "Love and Respect"...it has a WOW factor you'll be happy you read it. we've used it as a tool, we each read the same chapter, underline areas that are important to us and then we discuus the chapter before moving on. it is a great ice breaker and a good conversation starter. the jealousy we are feeling is due to our hurt and we can get strong again!
another thing is that you should voice your concerns and if his heart is in the right place then he will never hurt you like that again. my best to you.