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He finally texted now he won't text back

only2bestrong
only2bestrong
He texted tonight and said sorry to bother ya just seeing how you and Mo are doing. I waited abt 1 hr and texted back and said hey you we are doing fine thanks for asking. and I asked u? We now he won't text back.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I thought you were going no contact? You've got to let go of this bum.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is why No Contact is so important. You get pulled in by what you see is a hopeful sign, and then get sent into a tailspin by their further behavior (or lack thereof.)

Next time, send him a text back stating "I will only accept contact from you in regards to the specific business of seeing Mo." I don't know your story, so if there Mo is not his, and he has no rights, then leave it at "I will no longer accept any contact from you".

And then delete any text, voice-mail, email, etc. that does not have to do with anything actually real about Mo.

And never, ever, ever, ever actually pick up the phone when he calls. Let him leave a voice-mail so you can control your reactions.
only2bestrong
only2bestrong
I just thought if I texted back letting him know I was ok with the break up it would be ok b/c then he might start thinking I have moved on but now I know it was a mistake but I can't help but wonder why he hasn't texted back.
playerapr
playerapr
Don't answer his text's or calls, it is really difficult, but deep inside you still have expectations and hope and when he don't answer you are left wondering and you get hurt all over again. Stay strong!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
You will eventually stop wondering, but not unless you stop all contact. Period. You can't worry about what he thinks or care what he thinks. Or, at least, that's the way you have to act, until it's also the way you feel.