I'm freaking out a bit right now. I had a session with my therapist tonight and we were talking about cyber affairs and why they happen and such. I've also done some reading on the subject and now I have this in my head: If I didn't look at his phone and find out about this woman, maybe we'd still be together.
I told my therapist that he wasn't actually physically invovled with this woman, it appeared to be purely an online fantasy thing. And she said that a lot of the cyber things are just that--fantasy. So maybe it didn't mean anything to him, and maybe if I never saw that message I wouldn't have been angry and hurt, and we wouldn;t have been fighting all the time. This happened toward the beginning of this thing with this woman--maybe it escalated with her because I was so freaked out about it. Maybe I ruined us. We were good together before this happened, and after that I just couldn't let it go. He told me it didn;t mean anything, and maybe at that point it didn't. But I was so hurt and angry about it. He kept telling me I needed to "stop this"--maybe I should have listened. Maybe I should have gone into therapy long before -- I had thought about it. Maybe WE should have gone into therapy. Maybe this could have been saved!
I am sitting here totally flipped out right now, and thinking of emailing him that I want to talk. At the same time I'm scared to death that if I did that he wouldn't respond. I've got myself thinking this is MY fault, and I'm sure some saner head out there can speak to that more rationally right now. I just want to talk to him so badly right now and I can't let myself contact him. Help
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