I'm freaking out a bit right now. I had a session with my therapist tonight and we were talking about cyber affairs and why they happen and such. I've also done some reading on the subject and now I have this in my head: If I didn't look at his phone and find out about this woman, maybe we'd still be together.
I told my therapist that he wasn't actually physically invovled with this woman, it appeared to be purely an online fantasy thing. And she said that a lot of the cyber things are just that--fantasy. So maybe it didn't mean anything to him, and maybe if I never saw that message I wouldn't have been angry and hurt, and we wouldn;t have been fighting all the time. This happened toward the beginning of this thing with this woman--maybe it escalated with her because I was so freaked out about it. Maybe I ruined us. We were good together before this happened, and after that I just couldn't let it go. He told me it didn;t mean anything, and maybe at that point it didn't. But I was so hurt and angry about it. He kept telling me I needed to "stop this"--maybe I should have listened. Maybe I should have gone into therapy long before -- I had thought about it. Maybe WE should have gone into therapy. Maybe this could have been saved!
I am sitting here totally flipped out right now, and thinking of emailing him that I want to talk. At the same time I'm scared to death that if I did that he wouldn't respond. I've got myself thinking this is MY fault, and I'm sure some saner head out there can speak to that more rationally right now. I just want to talk to him so badly right now and I can't let myself contact him. Help
I'm on my 2nd marriage. My 1st cheated on me numerous times and 1 was with my sister which is why I don't talk to her then with a coworker then at a bar and after so long of it going on and me finding out.I ended up with a emotional breakdown. This was back in 2003. Its seems is in always living in fear all the time if it happens again. I been with my current 1 for the last 12...
i am new to this so I don't I really do not know where to begin. I have been in a long distance relationship for about 2 years now and within those 2 years we struggled with the long distance we often see each other now and again every 6-8 months or once in a year she always had to come to me but I couldn't go to her cos I get being refused my visa applications back into the country, but I...