i feel the same about hubbys tart she knew we were happily married but wudnt let go he eventually moved from uk to greece much to her delight n left me kids n his family devistated i hate her so much i sent her emails hes been sending me last 2 weeks hes only been gone 3 weeks how much he misses me and recordings of convos he said he loves me n she means nothing and more i just wanted to knock the smug look off her face n hes bk in uk at moment not sur wot his intentions are wether hes playing tricks n mind games or not but i just want her to feel the hurt im feeling

Very true. Good advice.

I don't hate either OW in my case. I feel empathy for the first one because she actually apologized. Doesn't excuse what she did but it does tell me there is a human being in there who actually thinks a bit about the pain she caused. The second one I don't hate either. I feel pity for her for being such a pathetic human being and such an incredibly bad example of a woman and mother. She is supposedly educated but didn't seem to have a clue about the cycles long term relationships go through. She used a secret she shared with my ex (his first affair when I didn't know about it) to get closer to him and pretended to be my friend so she could twist things I talked about when she told him. I have many, many examples of outright lies and manipulations that she used to pull the wool over his eyes. I see her influence on my step-daughter and the secrets she keeps from my ex about her so she can remain "friends" and so my step-daughter will "like her". These things are most important to her and the best interest of anyone will never over-ride what she thinks is her own best interest. She is getting sloppy now though. She is telling stories to people she told different stories too in the beginning and they are noticing. Nope, don't hate her at all. I have some anger now and again at her complete stupidity and disregard for a man and his family. I get angry at the way she helped rip things apart for all of the children. I am amazed at how completely devoid of intelligence she has in regards to how this is affecting her own kids. She truly thinks they are adjusted and happy? Is she THAT stupid? Apparently so.
My best revenge is that she is with my ex and my life has never been better emotionally, physically and financially. She can keep him forever and I wouldn't care. She is stupid enough to so she may as well.
She is not psycho that I know of but mentally unbalanced I would say she is for sure. I have my own legal protections in place in case she crosses any lines with me so I am not worried.
I would follow all the advice here that has been provided. Call the cops each and every time she crosses any lines. Hopefully she will eventually get the message.

I don't hate the 3 other women in our case, I pity them and laugh at them!

I am in the same situation. I have the exact same question how can you not hate the ow? in my situation the Ow knew about me, my kids and she screwed my H anyway. even though i put the blame on my H because he shouldve been a man and said no to the whore, it angers me beyond reality that a woman can do this to another woman intentionally. this triflin whore moved out of state but before she left i tried to be the bigger woman and I wrote her a letter letting her know I forgave her and you know what?! this bitch wasnt even woman enough to accept my letter! she sent word to tell me that she doesnt owe me anything. So now I do hate this bitch!because she helped almost destroy my life and my family and because of her my life is changed completely and this whore cant even say sorry!? Im sorry DS family F**k my H OW and she can kiss my A$$ !and If you live in Louisiana and you have a husband or mate I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. because she is probably down there breaking up homes and marriages because she is too insecure and thirsty for men that are not hers rather than being a respectable woman and finding a man that is single. I know this post didnt really give advice, but I am glad to know I am not the only one having issues with the OW

The OW in my situation was only 21 and I tried to be kind and let her know how much damage she had caused (my husband was not the first married man she had slept with). I figured whe was young and stupid and I should explain to her the gravity of her actions since she RELENTLESSLY pursued my husband before the affair. Anyway, she texted me and said that he's a good friend and that I should be glad that she cared so much about my husband. She's lucky she lives out of state, she should be afraid to ever come back because if I see her I wont be able to control myself and I'm actually a really calm and nice person. I say she deserves to be hated, she deserves to be missing some teeth as well :)

I felt the same way... I still do. My blood boils when I see her, hear of her, see a picture of her on the internet somewhere, anything.. I see red. She knew what she was doing, even though husband was in the wrong too, she knew. She is what they call a "homewrecker". This OW you are talking about seems to be the same way. She knows she is hurting you. Hate is a strong word but I think it is appropriate for this situation. I hate her. I always will and nothing can change it. No sorry's, no no contact with Husband, nothing. I hate her. She destroyed my life for a short period of time and hurt my children. I do and will always hate her.

And I know it takes a lot of energy to hate someone.. so I hate her from a distance. I try not to ever go anywhere where I'll see or hear of her. She isn't in any circles of my friends or associates so I am grateful for that. She does deserve to be hated, like someone before me posted. She doesn't deserve forgiveness, even though the Lord says you should forgive. Even if you forgive her, forgive her to yourself, don't let her know your feelings have changed, because then she might try to be in your life more.. try to be a "friend" to you.. none of that could ever happen.. you know that, but she's coniving.. she wants to be in your life as much as she can, just to stab you in your back.

Yeah, I find it interesting, that there is a recurring theme here:

The pond sucking scum OW even "pretends to be your friend", and pull this shit! It's amazing that they didn't blink once when they came to our houses, posed for pictures at parties, gave gifts, and acted all nicey nice! I really don't understand how WOMEN, who are supposed to be empathic by nature, can do all this damage intentionally.

Maybe these women, aren't women at all, and have been slowly evolving into hermaphrodites, and have some balls hanging somewhere that they're hiding or camouflaging! lol

I think your hatred is justified and you should not be ashamed. I know how you feel my OW was my "good friend" and then when the affair was outed, she told me she only hung out with me because she wanted to be near my SO. Their affair is over and she is now on a campaign to destroy me, after all I she believes I stand in the way of her true happiness with the man she loves. Pardon me while I barf.

Yeah, having fun:

You are destroying her fricken life.....what a narcissist, and immature, narrowminded, pathetic excuse of a woman, or human being for that matter!

Move over, I wanna barf with you, and don't wanna get any on your shoes!