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Got a call from the police...

only2bestrong
only2bestrong
Last week I got a call from a police officer telling me that my ex's employer called saying I was harassing them. WTF? I was so upset over the whole thing. My ex has taken advantange of so many people and I am getting blamed. I have also been getting the text messages from this chick and she is telling me that she is going to call DHS on me for trying to protect my ex. All weekend I was getting text messages from her telling me that he has already moved on to some one new and my ex thinks I am the one harassing him so it will be easy to pin on me. I am so scared. I am in the middle of a child custody case and if my ex husband finds out about this I will lose my daughter. I even got a message forwarded to me from my ex's sectary telling him that he needed to go by my house and get my address and my apt number and she needed his case number so they could get my papers in the mail. WTF? After being with him the last 4 years he want to turn this around on me. I wasn't the one that was unfaithful I stood beside him thru thick and thin. If he wasn't such a womanizer he wouldn't be in this place. I guess this chick has sent a text to his co workers saying my ex was fired from coaching b/c of lewd acts with the girls which is true but I am just an emotional wreck right now. I even got a friend request on facebook from one of the guys he works with wifes do they think I am fucking stupid?
lori47
lori47
I would suggest going no contact with your stbx and anyone associated with him. Block the chick's ph where she cannot text you. Do what you have to do to protect you and your daughter.
only2bestrong
only2bestrong
That's the deal she keep changing her numbers so its hard for me to block them. She keeps buying go phone and I have heard those can't be traced. I haven't talked to him since last monday when he told me he knew it wasnt me but I guess to make his self look good he is putting the blame on me. He still hasn't came to get his car and we broke up 8 weeks ago. He told the police I wouldn't give him the keys. wtf he was just here and spend the weekend with me 2 weeks ago but finally got him to admit that he did that b/c he thought I would have the chick quit harassing him. I am just so hurt after everything we have been thru he is doing this to me. I stood by him thru all the affairs / no having a job/ getting fired from coaching etc and this is what I get. I guess I shouldnt be shocked since he was telling me he loved me and telling 2 girls he just met 2 months ago that he loved them... I am just so hurt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I hope you have kept the messages on your phone as proof.

How about calling you local non-emergency police number, ask for help, and explain that you are being harassed both directly by someone who keeps changing phones, and I directly because she is harassing his work and pinning it on you.

Worst case they will blow you off and tell you to contact a lawyer. Best case, they may have real advice.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe this will be the final push you need to really go no contact with this POS. It's been advised here many times, including by me. Change YOUR number. If you risk custody of your daughter now, there are no excuses.

Sending support.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Btw, I am truly sorry for your pain. It will always boggle my mind that people are capable of treating others like this. But it's time for you to stop waiting for him or the skanks du jour to act decently and take control for yourself. The only way is to cut the cancer out of your life. Completely.

(((HUGS))) to you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
P.S.S. See if you can have his car towed and charged to him. That would be sweet ;)
Lstecker
Lstecker
I am with the Natster...omg, I am so with her.

If anyone would have put my having my kids in the mix, I would have been on the horn with the cops so fast, reporting her, reporting him, doing whatever I had to...

...you can't wait with this.

I would, also, call the cops and give them the full scenerio with this nut job of a woman calling you and threatening you. Let them sort it out. But either way, if this does affect you in Court, you would at least appear as if you were not a sitting duck in all of this. Be proactive.

L~
deleted_user
deleted_user
PLEASE listen to Nat... she is telling you the best advice you will ever hear. Many of us have stood by POS while they showed us who they were by their actions to others and us. We allowed ourselves to be doormats and that really is the part that hurts the most. That we LET ourselves fall that LOW. That we has such disrespect for ourselves that we allowed a POS to treat us as they did and we just kept on coming back for more and more. This man will do this same thing over and over and hon..he is LOOKING for women that will LET him do it!! I dont mean any disrespect because I have been guilty of being a doormat myself a few times! But lets face it...women that allow themselves to be treated like this or allow themselves to be used as OW dont exactly think right. I know I didnt. So anything they do when scorned cant really shock you.

Change your phone number. STOP having anything to do with this man. He is a POS that is a user and will continue to do this as long as you LET HIM DO IT!!! He will lie to you over and over because you are LETTING HIM.. If you change YOUR number it stops. Then gather all the evidence and go file a restraining order against HIM and his wacked out ex gf. ONLY have contact with the school or anyone in the situation through EMAIL so you have EVIDENCE. If you change your phone number this will be the ONLY way they have to contact you.

STOP this madness. Stop it NOW!! YOU are participating by allowing it to continue even though I KNOW you dont want it to. It is up to YOU to do this.