Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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only2bestrong 05/28/2011

Well as most of you guys know me and my boyfriend broke up the first of April because when he was out of town on a business trip I found out he was sleeping with a girl in PA and had met her the previous month he was there. We have been split up since April 8 he would text every now and then to see how things were going a couple of weekends ago he came out we had sex etc. He swore there was no one else blah blah blah. When he was here I looked in his shaving bag and seen a pill bottle with a girls name on it didn't think any of it. We he left for PA 3 days after he spent the weekend with me. A woman that he owes money to has been giving him hell and says she is going to destroy him and he thinks i have something to do with it. Well last night i get a text from the woman that is trying to destroy him telling me to call this number b/c Michael is sleeping with her, then I get a forwarded voicemail that said hey baby its me just wondering if you got off the plane yet give me a call when you do I love you. Well I called the chick and yeap he has been sleeping with her since the first of april also just don't see how they can already be telling each other they love each other. After what I told her she dumped him but still it feels like my heart has been torn out of my chest AGAIN. This girl that has been harassing him said since I tried to protect him she is going to see to it that I lose my daughter.

utterpain 05/28/2011

I think it's obvious there's no going back, and you don't want this drama pouring into your daughter's life. If you can't get him and his crap out of your life for you, then do it for your daughter. Refuse to be a part of his mess and change your number. You'll feel a lot better once you take control.

deleted_user 05/28/2011

Only2be...first off, I am so sorry this is happening to you. Losing someone you love is tough enough, but when they leave for someone else, its even more so. Took me a long, long time to get over my ex wife and part of it was that she went straight from our marital home to having children with her affair partner.

As for why they are already saying I love you to each other, that can happen very quickly, especially in a romantic affair and I imagine that they have probably been texting or chatting a lot in between then and now. That really isn't important though, what's important are his actions and that you can not let yourself be treated like that. It is very, very tough to do but you have to shut this man and this other woman out of your life for yourself and for your daughter. You definitely need to take control of the situation and report that woman now.

I'll be sending good thoughts your way and hope that things work out for the best. And again, sorry you are having to go through this pain.

deleted_user 05/29/2011

these women are angry.... because he is betraying them... all of you. He is a loser.... walk away before he destroys you completely.

distancemj 05/29/2011

(big hug)
He sounds like a mega player. Nothing good would come of it, and some day he will get pay back for hurting so many women.

deleted_user 05/29/2011

I agree with the advice you are getting from the others and will add this; if you know the name or any info of this threatening woman, go and get a protection order against her. If she does try to cause legal problems for you with your daughter, it will help you.
Good luck.

deleted_user 05/29/2011

To put your mind at ease I doubt there is any way for her to get you in trouble with the law regarding your chikd because she's been cheating with your stbx. I would look into getting an order of protection using the messages. I am terribly sorry this is happening to you. He really is awful for doing this to all of you. I would be surprised if there aren't more women out there he is doing this to.

Lstecker 05/30/2011

Me? I would tell this woman to 'eff off.'

I wouldn't be all that nice about it either.

If she contacts you again, call the cops, get it all documented, file harassment charges if you can, restraining order...

Seriously, as I read your post, I thought, 'I would tell her to f off.'

Take the bull by the horns, girl. If she wants this clown, she can have him, but no one threatens kids.

If you need me to come and kick her ass, I will.

L~

cbazan 05/30/2011

I can't stand when side whores cross the line...and I definitely don't PLAY when it comes to my darling child. How on earth would she be able to ensure you lose your child. I wouldn't play around with that skank whore. Go to the police station IMMEDIATELY and file a HARASSMENT complaint. that way you are already covered. What this wench is doing and what your ex did to her has NOTHING TO DO WHAT YOU, YOUR CHILD OR ABILITY TO BE A MOTHER. Don't allow that sleazy whore to intimidate you like that. I wished I could be right by your side to help in your defense. It's not saying anything negative towards you as a person, but some people tend to try and pick on someone who they THINK are weak. I'm far from it and if she had a meting with me her ass would break fast in the other direction. Good luck honey, stay strong and don't play games with this heifer when she's trying to involve your innocent child in HER AND YOUR EX'S SLOPPY MESS.

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