Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I really don't like my husbands ex-wife.
My husbands ex often sends him emails (I have no problem with this). I casually read a few of these emails one day (he was sitting next to me) and she was ripping me apart in them. My problem, he never defended me. Why?
The mother of his child has also made many false accusations toward me and my husband and now I'm scared to have the child in my home again (we're screaming at her, not feeding her, hitting her, and yes the mother directed the words "child abuse" at me) We do everything for her: buy school clothes, pay for her health care, dental care, pay for all her lessons, pay for her school lunch, buy all her books, we pay to fly her all over the country, and pay 1500 a month for child support. My husband tries to call her everyday @8pm to talk to her, but he usually doesn't get her on the line.
The child is 12 and after talking with my husband I requested that she not come back until my son goes away to college. I'm just scared that she's gonna say he did something to her and his whole future is gone.
What the heck is wrong with this child and her mother?
My husbands ex often sends him emails (I have no problem with this). I casually read a few of these emails one day (he was sitting next to me) and she was ripping me apart in them. My problem, he never defended me. Why?
The mother of his child has also made many false accusations toward me and my husband and now I'm scared to have the child in my home again (we're screaming at her, not feeding her, hitting her, and yes the mother directed the words "child abuse" at me) We do everything for her: buy school clothes, pay for her health care, dental care, pay for all her lessons, pay for her school lunch, buy all her books, we pay to fly her all over the country, and pay 1500 a month for child support. My husband tries to call her everyday @8pm to talk to her, but he usually doesn't get her on the line.
The child is 12 and after talking with my husband I requested that she not come back until my son goes away to college. I'm just scared that she's gonna say he did something to her and his whole future is gone.
What the heck is wrong with this child and her mother?
How about supervised visits?
Sounds like mom is trying to start some trouble... Document, document, document... I'd also get kinda of sneaky... Take "family" photos while everyone's sitting around the table eating breakfast lunch and dinner - kind of thing... Get creative while CYA!!!
Doesnt mean he agrees or supports it. I agree that it's hard - I hate it when the person I'm with won't defend me in those situations - but I've seen it too often to be surprised these days.
Coping, I think you're right. He doesn't want to deal with the conflict.
This all started about a year ago when I started shipping her food ... well candy and high calorie foods (she's very underweight, 12 years and 70ish lbs) Her mom keeps her on a vegan diet, but the little girl likes to eat meat and eggs.
When she came for her visit last summer I was scared for her life because she was so thin, so I took her to the doctor who was also very worried about her. In short she gained 10 very needed lbs last summer. Since my husband's little girl went back to her mother last summer, her mom has made our life hell.
She has threatened to have my husband deported (he has a green card). She always threatens to take us to court (I don't know for what). I've heard her tell the little girl, "you're a little liar, just like your dad." And the mother always tells her, "you are always creating problems." Honestly, I don't think the woman likes the child. I think she mentally abuses her to try and hurt my husband.
Any thoughts?
Report the mental abuse as well... Your H, citizen or not, has rights, so USE THEM... You guys need to see a family law attorney. Quickly! What I wouldn't do, is stop visitations... Since you guys already see so little of her, due to distance, it's important that she know her dad loves her. Stopping the visitations may actually be playing into mom's hands....
I wish you guys luck... This is a tricky situation.