Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My relationship officially ended last night...we're getting a divorce.
Up until now, I had hope that we could work things out. That he was going through an angry phase, and that after, he would realize what he lost. I moved out last week because I caught him sexting another girl, saying that he wishes I would sign divorce papers and let him free...this was news to me. I had hoped that when I left, it would be a wake up call. Last night we talked for the first time in a week. He said he wants a divorce. That he's told everyone he wants a divorce, and that he's happier now that I'm gone. He said he already thinks of me as his ex-wife. It was hard to hear, but after the sadness passed, I went home feeling better. I should have felt like my world was ending, but there is something very sobering about knowing where you stand. It was closure.
I realized something very important. The person that I loved, my husband, never would have let me go. He would have broken down a door to get to me. But this person who I was speaking with was desperate to get out of our marriage. And I'm okay with that, because if he was really mine, nothing could have taken him away from me. He started to get mean, because he started to drink, and he tried to say that the past 6 years together weren't even that great for him, but I stopped him and left. He can't take those very happy years away from me. We had a great marriage, up until this point, and just because he's angry and trying to hurt me doesn't give him the right to try to make those years meaningless. That makes me think that he's not dealing with his emotions at this point, but I'm not going to wait around for the moment when he realizes he threw this relationship in the garbage.
I never thought I would hear him say "I want a divorce." Not from the man who told me he loved me every single day for the last 8 years. But life goes on. Hearing what I desperately never wanted to hear actually gave me a lot of peace, because now I can move forward without looking back. I really hope this story helps you, especially if you fear divorce, and you feel desperate. Even if the relationship ends, you keep going.
C
Up until now, I had hope that we could work things out. That he was going through an angry phase, and that after, he would realize what he lost. I moved out last week because I caught him sexting another girl, saying that he wishes I would sign divorce papers and let him free...this was news to me. I had hoped that when I left, it would be a wake up call. Last night we talked for the first time in a week. He said he wants a divorce. That he's told everyone he wants a divorce, and that he's happier now that I'm gone. He said he already thinks of me as his ex-wife. It was hard to hear, but after the sadness passed, I went home feeling better. I should have felt like my world was ending, but there is something very sobering about knowing where you stand. It was closure.
I realized something very important. The person that I loved, my husband, never would have let me go. He would have broken down a door to get to me. But this person who I was speaking with was desperate to get out of our marriage. And I'm okay with that, because if he was really mine, nothing could have taken him away from me. He started to get mean, because he started to drink, and he tried to say that the past 6 years together weren't even that great for him, but I stopped him and left. He can't take those very happy years away from me. We had a great marriage, up until this point, and just because he's angry and trying to hurt me doesn't give him the right to try to make those years meaningless. That makes me think that he's not dealing with his emotions at this point, but I'm not going to wait around for the moment when he realizes he threw this relationship in the garbage.
I never thought I would hear him say "I want a divorce." Not from the man who told me he loved me every single day for the last 8 years. But life goes on. Hearing what I desperately never wanted to hear actually gave me a lot of peace, because now I can move forward without looking back. I really hope this story helps you, especially if you fear divorce, and you feel desperate. Even if the relationship ends, you keep going.
C
I would be shocked if he ever tried to come back to me. He made it VERY clear that he wants this divorce, and he tried to tell me that he has actually not been happy for years. I can honestly say that isn't true, he was very happy, because I did not sense that anything was wrong and normally you can at least tell that something if off --even if it's just a feeling, somehow you know. We were perfectly in sync. We went on vacations. He wanted to talk, and to be around me as much as possible. The fact that he's trying to re-write the past really sounds like he's just trying to justify what he's doing now. I think it will be unsuccessful. There were too many happy years to ignore.
I'm going to move on with my life. He's being a jerk now because he knew that I didn't want a divorce, but now my attitude has changed on that. I'm actually starting to look forward to it.
C