Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Okay, guys here is a bit of my story. My husband lost his goddamn mind one day. He treated me so bad it ain't even funny. I was scared as HELL and so were the kids. He did some pretty fucked up things. Left me and his two kids to be with OW. Got her pregnant...TWICE. Back to back babies.
NOW his sorry-ass wants to come back home. I filed for a divorce. I paid the lawyer $5,000 as a retainer fee from money from "his" account. My lawyer says I have the upper hand because:
I stayed in the house and he left.
I already paid lawyer upfront for divorce.
He has a mistress and two illegitemate kids.
I can fill first for child support and will get more funds to take care of my kids then if I waited for them to break-up and she files.
I am housewife.
I have an order in the custody papers that states he "can not force" children to go with them if they dont want to.
My son called the Sheriff's on his dad and they have a 911 tape.
He will not be able to hid all assests.
I still love this asshole I call my husband,sad but true. He says he made a HUGE mistake, wants to treat me like a queen, will never do it again, please give him a second chance, musta' been mid-life crisis, pleads temporary insanity...blah,blah,blah.
I no that I will look like a goddamn FOOL to most folks if I took my husband back.....especially if he is trying to trick me. There is a part of me that thinks I can do this. I can stay and so what we have two extra children from a fucking hoe,tramp-ass bitch!
My other mind says, "Divorce his stupid-ass, don't trust him! Let him and her raise two kids in diapers while my kids are bigger and we can split all our assests and h can pay ME child support instead of HER funky trampy ass!
Okay, I dont even know what my fuckin' point was. I'm just angry,humiliated,afraid,scared and I really don't know WHAT i want to do. I am hard working, traditionaly, obiedient housewife for years and he does this to me. I AM FUCKING PISSED!!!!! I want vengence. I want hime to love me (and not be lieing,plotting,and scheming cuz every foul ass thing he tried to do to me backed fired on him and he looks like a fucking FOOL)
If i stay will i regret it for the rest of my life or will we grow stronger and happier. If i leave will i find the love of my life out there somewhere who will treat me and love me with as much passion as I would for them?
NOW his sorry-ass wants to come back home. I filed for a divorce. I paid the lawyer $5,000 as a retainer fee from money from "his" account. My lawyer says I have the upper hand because:
I stayed in the house and he left.
I already paid lawyer upfront for divorce.
He has a mistress and two illegitemate kids.
I can fill first for child support and will get more funds to take care of my kids then if I waited for them to break-up and she files.
I am housewife.
I have an order in the custody papers that states he "can not force" children to go with them if they dont want to.
My son called the Sheriff's on his dad and they have a 911 tape.
He will not be able to hid all assests.
I still love this asshole I call my husband,sad but true. He says he made a HUGE mistake, wants to treat me like a queen, will never do it again, please give him a second chance, musta' been mid-life crisis, pleads temporary insanity...blah,blah,blah.
I no that I will look like a goddamn FOOL to most folks if I took my husband back.....especially if he is trying to trick me. There is a part of me that thinks I can do this. I can stay and so what we have two extra children from a fucking hoe,tramp-ass bitch!
My other mind says, "Divorce his stupid-ass, don't trust him! Let him and her raise two kids in diapers while my kids are bigger and we can split all our assests and h can pay ME child support instead of HER funky trampy ass!
Okay, I dont even know what my fuckin' point was. I'm just angry,humiliated,afraid,scared and I really don't know WHAT i want to do. I am hard working, traditionaly, obiedient housewife for years and he does this to me. I AM FUCKING PISSED!!!!! I want vengence. I want hime to love me (and not be lieing,plotting,and scheming cuz every foul ass thing he tried to do to me backed fired on him and he looks like a fucking FOOL)
If i stay will i regret it for the rest of my life or will we grow stronger and happier. If i leave will i find the love of my life out there somewhere who will treat me and love me with as much passion as I would for them?
Divorce him. It will only benefit you and your kids in this case. Be strong!
I am stuck on stupid because I am trying to think of a way that I will come out "ahead" of them (mistress and husband) both. By "ahead" a mean not only emotionally, but FINANCIALLY,as well as happiness for my daughter,son,and myself. I do think a lot of the financial part. I lie to my family and friends and say that I don't. I could have been working with him getting paid top dollar,but he went in my place while I stayed home with the kids.(This was ten years ago) He promised we would NEVER have to want for anything. Now my stbx and his mistress and their two illegitemate kids want to destroy my dreams of being able to send my kids to college and our happiness. She had two kids on purpose to make it harder on my husband to come back home. His mistress/whore told me that she would take us to court for child support if he left her. I depend on both our incomes (especially husbands making over 80,000 a year to help my bio family members who are living in poverty as well as the three poor families in another country I've been helping. IT IS LIKE THE DECISION I MAKE WILL AFFECT EVERYONE not just me. My kids, the families in third world country I help, my family, my nieghbor that I was helping finacially who is literelly dieing of a cronic illeness. Then I think, I will never find anyone one who WANTS me (at forty with two kids)let alone someone who will love me. I am PATHETIC. I think, at least he WANTS me (even for his own selfish motives). I make myself sick.