Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
ok, my story is a long one. First off, I’m 36, been married for 17 1/2 years. I married my high school sweet heart right out of high school and we have made it this far. My wife has cheated on me multiple times, long story each time, anyways, to the reason for my post....
the last time was nearly 3 years ago, it was the hardest one to go through and it was both of our faults (another long story). We were separated for 6 months and we ended getting back together. The first couple years were “good” and she continually shows me every day that she would never hurt me again and I believe her, she hasn’t acted like in the past and I feel she really is changed.
At first I wanted to do everything to save our marriage. But recently, I have grown distant and feel like I am not “in love” with her. I do love her, she is my best friend, we enjoy hanging out with each other and all the stuff besides sex. The sex is great when it happens, but I’m not turned on by her, and it’s not a physical thing, she has a nice body and is a great love maker, for some reason, I can’t get over these feeling. Looking for help and some guidance. I want to make it work, I want to get those feeling back of giddy love, it’s just lost atm. Anyone help?
I would start by taking a vacation.. get out of town.. nobody but you two. Reconnect, no cellphone no social media..
If you have not properly healed from her multiple affairs then there is a good chance it has killed the love you had for her.
Couple counseling would be a good idea.
1. Couples counseling is never a bad idea and neither is personal counseling. You could very well be emotionally stuck.
2. Talk to her about it. You could also be picking up on some vibes she's putting out.
3. Read up - my husband and I are reading "Hot Monogamy" and it has some really insightful material and things you can work on together as a couple to increase intimacy.