Only you can decide what you are willing to put up with. If it's too much, leave. Good luck.

Sure, he could be trying to push you out and put the blame on you.
Sounds like he is just down right abusive.
It's up to you whether you stay or not.
You can live with his constant abuse, or live in peace. The choice is yours.
Personally, I've had to live with a lot of S$%$, but abuse will never be something I can live with.
I'd rather walk away from our home, and everything in it, than to live with an abusive man.

Cali, it really sounds like your husband is emotionally abusing you. You have been through so much and you should NOT have to put up with this. I'm not sure if he wants out or if he is just embarrassed about his actions and pushing you away. Or maybe he can't get out of his selfish mindset. Either way, you are a GODDESS for putting up with him from what I've heard about him and if I were you I wouldn't stay another minute.

He probably doesnt want you gone but it does sound like he is emotionally abusing you. You need to think long and hard about whether you are willing to put up with this ill treatment. There is so much better out there honey

He is a bully. He needs to see a therapist.

He's doing it because he's abusive.

Do you want to be with somebody that does that to you for the rest of your life? And why is it worth it? Do you think you deserve this treatment?

he's saying to you, what he really feels about himself...anything to keep the focus off of him and his dirty deeds...leave the room, go out and tell him his abuse will no longer be tolerated in this relationship...you are a good person, don't let him pull you down...stand tall, sheila