Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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slwaite 01/07/2011

Well, my divorce was final on December 17th, which ironically was also our 17 year wedding anniversary.

I love KARMA.....

I hope the best for everyone for this new year and remember to keep your head up!!! Each of us is a valuable human being with wonderful qualities to share. Never forget that!!!

~S~

deleted_user 01/07/2011

i spent new years with a good friend who's divorce literally was finalised that week. new years would have been my 6 yr anniversary with my now ex.

it was a somewhat cleansing night really.

i hope 2011 is a strong and good year for all of us

slwaite 01/08/2011

Well, I spent New Years Eve with a group of friends watching an awesome local band play. I laughed so hard at the antics of my friends, my face hurt. I can't think of a better way to ring in the new year...laughing!!!!

I am happy. I have a wonderful new job, 2 great kids and awesome support. I will survive this stronger and happier. I have friends that say I am the happiest they have seen me in years. I hate that he threw away our marriage for easy sex but I have ME back. I can't say I regret that.

It is awesome to have my confidence in myself back. Over the years, I had let him strip it away from me. He talked down to me, treated me as if I am stupid and was not worthy. Well, who is stupid now?

I love the one little fact that I now have the exact same job he does. In the 2 months that I have had this job, I have already learned so much. Imagine what another 6 months will teach me. I got the wonderful joy of surprising the hell out of him with that tidbit. He thought that I was just a bookkeeper....well, no longer. I am a computer tech and a bookkeeper...woo hoo!!! Stupid??? My new boss said that he has not ever seen anyone pick up the tech side so fast. LOVE IT!!!!

This is going to be a great year for me. I have plans and a direction. I have goals. I am looking toward the future!!!!

Always keep your head up and don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do something!!!

~S~

movingon4now 01/08/2011

VERY ENCOURAGING AND IM REALLY HAPPY FOR YOU

slwaite 01/08/2011

Thanks!!!!

deleted_user 01/08/2011

I am right there with you. My divorce was final on 12/28/10, and by the time it was officially finalized, I had already accepted it and was looking forward to my new life.
For me, his affair wasn't the reason we separated or broke up, but it certainly didn't help any. We already had holes in our marriage, and he chose to have an affair while I went into IC...without either of us really attempting to connect.
I learned a lot about myself in the last year, also. I know someone else doesn't define me. I know I am capable of being on my own, being a good Mom, and I have awesome friends here and IRL that will support me 100 percent.
Good Luck! I have a feeling this is going to be a GREAT year!

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