Obviously it isn't over. Unless your H is willing to cut off contact with the OW immediately and forever there is no chance of your marriage healing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love Must be Tough by James Dobson

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That clown is probably playing both of you women. Rip the big red nose off his face and kick him to the curb...

This can never work if he is doing all of this behind your back while telling you he wants to work it out. I don't blame you for being mad. It pissed me off when I read it!

Sending support.

I know from experience that if your H truely feels bad for cheating he would learn from his mistake and stop. I am the one who cheated on my H and I have learned my lesson although very diff circumstances it was STILL CHEATING REGARDLESS AND I do Love my H and would never do anything to hurt him or put our marriage in jeopardy again. sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. U cant let him do this to U over and over again if he didnt learn his lesson the first time he wont ever. need to to get rid of him although I know it easier said than done. I wish U the best of luck hun hang in there

I would be extremely hurt and dissapointed. It's hard to say what you would do, because you can never really be sure. But, I do believe with all my heart, if I found out my H was having contact, I'd have to walk away....

I'd have to choose me and what's best for me and the rest of the family. Personally, for me there's is no way I could go through something like that again. Contact with the OW at this point, for me, would destroy everything completely. Everything that has been repaired would once again be destroyed.

For me, now, it's hard enough to trust my H. If I found out he had contact with OW recently, such as you, it would destroy any new trust I was starting to feel.

I just don't understand how someone, who is in a healing process after a confession, can go and have contact. To me, they don't really want to safe the union, don't care, or can't help it. All reasons, enough for me, to have to move on with my own inner peace.

I'm sorry for you. If you can afford to be without him, then maybe you should do so. He's seen how much he's hurt you by his affair, and yet his lies, secrets, and deception continues. Some of these adulterers are so selfish and have no shame or conscience, but at least you found out now instead of months or years from now. At least you now know if it's worth trying to make things work.

He's waving a big red sign in your face here. I hope you take it off of him and slam him over the head with it, then walk away of course!

I am sorry for what you are going through. I just do not get them. If I had cheated on my mate he would not have to ask for any passwords because I would have given them up so fast. I would not want there to be any chance of him thinking that I am still cheating. Then they wonder why we don't trust them because you are acting like you are hiding something. After an affair trust has to be earned not just given.

Tell him if he wants to still have contact with the ho-bag, he can do it in his own place or at Starbucks, because he shouldn't be living with you if he wants to carry on with her.

Tough choice but you can't continue to let him disrespect you. You're worth a hell of a lot more than that.

My h was having a hard time giving up the whore as well. Once I discovered he was still in contact and lying to my face about it. I told him to take off his wedding ring and give it back to me. He wouldn't do it. Go figure. This addiction to these no class/low class character flawed whores just boggles my mind.

Prayers for you!

If he doesn't stop COLD TURKEY, he isn't wanting to stop. You two need to talk...