It's been a few years since I had found out about my H cheating, we managed to work through it, and seem to be in a better place in our marriage now .

when I am driving to work, I have an hour drive and while I am at work , I am Nurses Aid , I think about things and most of the things I do think about is my H's cheating ,I guess because I never really got any closure and only got bits and pieces of the truth, I basically had to piece it all together.

I remember when I found out had actual proof that I was not crazy and that in fact he was cheating on me with a co worker, he seemed angry at me for the way I was acting and going about handling his cheating, I finally figured out who she was, he never told me her name ,I had to find that out on my own , seems he spent a lot of time protecting HER, one thing I will never understand, but any way, I remember during this whole time when I was irate, angry upset, just in a bad place, he was actually mad or angry at me .

Yes I handled it the exact way I knew i would I went after him then went after her , I was not going to just sit quietly by while my whole life fell apart , I was not concerned at the time about what people were thinking about me, so what I wasn't rude to his place of work , I just informed them that one of their staff was using her work phone for personal use, meaning screwing around with my husband, they were not surprised seems this is her past time she likes married men. I didn't yell at them or anyone who was not involved, but he was angry with me told me not to call that number because it's just not for her use , I told him "I guess you should of thought of that before you started cheating on me with her ?" He was mad at me for telling the people he worked with , in the office what they were up .

I just remembered standing there in our kitchen " YOUR MAD AT ME because I embarrassed you in front of the people you work with , are you serious, I would think that would be the last thing you would be worried about right now ."

I think back on a lot of it ,I asked him what would he of liked, me to keep quiet and pretend it didn't happen , I didn't get why he was mad at me, it blew my mind ,then it only got worse because I got a hold of her husband, see she thought she covered her tracks pretty well, she could screw around with my H , and then go home to her family and everything was perfect. I had a few people ask actually ask me why I told her husband, what did I have to do that for ,what did I have to gain by doing that ? " Yes I during that whole horrible time in my life I couldn't believe some of the things that were said to me.

I felt the reason why he was mad or angry at me for the way I handled it was because he felt he didn't do anything wrong by cheating, since "HE" hadn't been happy for months "HE" had been thinking about leaving for almost year,I was the reason why he was cheating, I was the horrible miserable house wife, who made his life a living hell, which I pointed out to him, that during this whole time he was still coming home every day, eating dinner with me, sleeping with me,never hinting around that anything was wrong, went on vacations. That's the one things that still angers me ,the fact that he was actually mad at me for how I dealt with his cheating, I am sorry there is no handbook that tells a BS the correct way to handle the situation O_o