My H cheated on me over 2 years ago. Things are wonderful now, we have reached a new chapter in our lives, but we still butt heads on a few topics such as , friends. roughly three weeks ago I came downstairs to find my H going through my cell phone , I aked him what he was looking for he didn't say . He has bizarre behavior, I have changed my life for him even distanced myself from Male friends, Two are my brothers best friends,we all grew up together and my friend who I grew up with we went to kgarden togtether ,Ive known these three guys for 20 plus years, and at first it was no big deal, now it bugs me ,brings me back to "Being Punished" all over again, My brother has a knack for calling at all werid hours, he always has, he called me at 2 am so my H said ,"Well your brother called you, at least I think it was your brother , his name came up" I asked what that meant, he didnt respond well I look at my phone No one called me, I talked to my brother the pervious day in the afternoon. I even went on line to check since sometimes some calls do not get logged in the history, no calls no one called me at all.I left well enough alone, He now has this attitude that I should not talk to anyone that makes him uncomfortable, wich is just about all my friends, including my siblings. because I smile and laugh alot when I talk to them, "I seem different " he said, ok whatever dude. right ? I have not changed, I have always been open and honest with him about eveyrthing, he knows all my friends , the male friends I spoke of sincerely like my H , they may not like what he did to me ,but they have not judged him, His friends are sneaky and would lie for him and get hin in all kinds of situatiions,even his sister is the same way ,they all cheat, lie and create all kinds of problems, but yet He yet continues to have contact with them even when I ask him how he could be so twofaced,It drives me crazy because its just really twisted. myfriend calls it crazymaking.Then to make it worse my H found out that while we were split up and mind you I had just caught him cheating on me and filed for divorce we were done , I ran into an ex boyfriend in Krogers. he seemed surprised to see me and said since he had found me he realy needed to talk to me but he didnt want to do it in store, so he asked if he could take me out to dinner, well, I said yes. I was curious. well he was in aggressive therapy and had been for years, and I was the last person he needed to apologize to ,we dated when we were in high school itw as serious at the time ,he had gotten into drugs and became abusive,he had attacked me several times ,well it had been nearly 16 years since we last spoke, and it had been eating him alive all these years, I left one night after he threatened my life and never looked back ,we went out to dinner twice and remained in contact for a short time he was trying to work things out with his wife who had left him for some guy she met onilne, I did not tell my H this when we reconciled for the sake of an argument, somtimes I feel like I am going crazy. He found out and totally flipped out .I just hate feeling like I am being punished over and over for something he did.