Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello all,
If you are a BS and not familiar with the Chumplady I'd like to direct you to her latest and greatest article. I was tempted to cut and paste it into this thread but I don't want to give anyone the impression that I've written it. She deserves all the credit for this one.
The topic of her article today is "Reconciliation and Entitlement" For those that don't know, the chump lady considers true reconciliation like a unicorn-we want to believe in them but alas they are a mythical creature. She doesn't rule it out completely but she pulls no punches in pointing out when reconciliation is false.
Before I started reading her articles I thought something was off about ours, but now I completely understand why it was false. This article is the best explanation I've read to date.
Please enjoy!
http://chumplady.com/
If you are a BS and not familiar with the Chumplady I'd like to direct you to her latest and greatest article. I was tempted to cut and paste it into this thread but I don't want to give anyone the impression that I've written it. She deserves all the credit for this one.
The topic of her article today is "Reconciliation and Entitlement" For those that don't know, the chump lady considers true reconciliation like a unicorn-we want to believe in them but alas they are a mythical creature. She doesn't rule it out completely but she pulls no punches in pointing out when reconciliation is false.
Before I started reading her articles I thought something was off about ours, but now I completely understand why it was false. This article is the best explanation I've read to date.
Please enjoy!
http://chumplady.com/
Thanks!!
People cheat because they feel entitled to cheat. Thats it. Thats my simple answer to the painful question of WHY? I dont believe people cheat because theyre broken, or their FOO issues, or because of the staggering powers of Facebook crushes. I dont believe people cheat because of mid-life crises, which descend on former church deacons like a toxic cloud of musk cologne. I dont believe people cheat because of peri-menopause. I dont believe people cheat because that hussy flung herself at him and wore down his defenses after his mother died. I dont believe people cheat because monogamy is not an evolutionary imperative. I believe people cheat because they give themselves permission to cheat and thats a matter of character.
(or lack thereof...emphasis mine)!
I hope I've chosen authentic reconciliation, I think I have.... I want to see the unicorn!
I say "you seem" because even though you talk the talk here, I don't know if you actually walk the walk. Only your wife knows that. Plus, I am permanently skeptical. I do hope that you and your wife see the elusive unicorn. I like the idea of the "post nuptial" agreement chump lady speaks of often. It's a document that pretty much signs over everything of monetary value to your wife if you get caught cheating again. Scary to a cheater I'm sure, but a completely useless document if you never cheat again.
Good luck to you both