Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I don t know if you guys remember this but a few month ago I told you guys about my best friend dating this guy engaged to another woman, I followed you all's advice and I kept on telling her about how wrong all of this is, I wrote her a letter and I talked to her reminding her of my pain even crying .....of course they were caught and he stopped seeing my friend once he convinced his fiance that my friend was his mothers astate lawyer......
this was a few month ago, since then she started dating a guy which the other guy does not like so now they are seeing each other again, so now not only is he cheating on his fiance bit she is also cheating on her current BF...
My other best friend is now in love with one of her best friends husbands ....she told her husband as much and they are woking on their relationship .....in the meantime she continues to talk to the other guy making plans on when to leave their current spouses.....Saying this is ok since her H knows all about this.....
What is goinig on in the world? Is there no moral anymore? are we all destined to be cheated on and scewed over by our partners and best friends? Maybe I just have a neck for picking the wrong friends....I dont know. All I know is that the world we live in is a crazy place and that I dont like that people don't seem to have values anymore...
Sure marriage gets boring and is not as exiting as new love and I miss the excitment sometimes but then I do whatever I can to bring back excitment, and apreciate all the nice things about knowing my husband and him knowing me as well as he does
I dont want to sound like I judge, it is just soo disheartening to see all this so close to home I guess...... Sorry , just needed to vent....
this was a few month ago, since then she started dating a guy which the other guy does not like so now they are seeing each other again, so now not only is he cheating on his fiance bit she is also cheating on her current BF...
My other best friend is now in love with one of her best friends husbands ....she told her husband as much and they are woking on their relationship .....in the meantime she continues to talk to the other guy making plans on when to leave their current spouses.....Saying this is ok since her H knows all about this.....
What is goinig on in the world? Is there no moral anymore? are we all destined to be cheated on and scewed over by our partners and best friends? Maybe I just have a neck for picking the wrong friends....I dont know. All I know is that the world we live in is a crazy place and that I dont like that people don't seem to have values anymore...
Sure marriage gets boring and is not as exiting as new love and I miss the excitment sometimes but then I do whatever I can to bring back excitment, and apreciate all the nice things about knowing my husband and him knowing me as well as he does
I dont want to sound like I judge, it is just soo disheartening to see all this so close to home I guess...... Sorry , just needed to vent....
I think all these women who are cheating know what you have been thru and may want your advice but have you considered that they are really ripping open some deep wounds for you? They are taking you back to a moment of such pain without realizing the true depth of it - because they are the OW and not the spouses that have been cheated on. Honey, that takes you right back to your pain. YOUR pain.
You've done some healing and all, but all this nonsense and being tangled up in it - in their nonsense - brings yours back full force.
Thier friendship is not worth it. Especially if they are not going to hear what you are saying and work with it. Rather, they are saying, 'yeah, I know what you have been thru but, but, but I love him...his wife sucks...she's mean...'
Takes you right back to what YOU went thru, doesn't it? And it 'undoes' all of YOUR healing.
Distance. Lots of distance. Nothing wrong with that.
Sending you support, L~
Really, I'm amazed that you have so many friends who do this. It's all going to blow up in their faces one day. What is wrong with people?
The other thing it does, is it makes me want to trust no more women. My girlfriend who wants her best friends Husband... that could be me again, you know? My H had an A with My best friend at the time and I thought that was the exception, now I think it is the norm....
I dont even want female friends anymore I know that is silly but I dont think I could trust them around my H.....
It is like I am loosing complete faith in people....
So, to fix that situation, instead of looking in the mirror and fixing their own problems, they think fucking someone new (behind their unknowing spouses back) will help. Wrap your head around THAT thought process.
I've had some good sex in my time, but never so good that my entire life outlook was transformed as a result. But what do I know.....
One thing I have learned, is that I now surround myself with positive friends...friends that add to my life. Same values....we don't waste our time with drama.
I lost two very good friends (by choice) as they had affairs and thought harmless flirting with married men was fun...cool.....and so ego boosting. These were friends of many years and I finally had the light bulb go off in my head how I was depressed after talking to them as it stirred up past emotions in me when it was my husband cheating. Then I would carry that mood over into my day with my hubby...........NOT GOOD!
You're right...all marriages get boring at times........that's part of life, like work gets boring...paying bills get boring............but looking at your partner with love and feeling love.........that's what it is all about.
I for one don't understand how Sisterhood has been lost........you have to pick out people for friends in this day and age for "value"....seems too many are caught up in instant gratification.
((( Hugs ))) to you.....when we lose our Rose Colored Glasses it makes us stop and think about many things.
yup, Calico...where did the Sisterhood go? Seems women are pretty damned ruthless when it comes to love and love lost and getting someone else's man. No stone will be left standing with some of these women.
Man, they piss me off.
...and make us all look like hell.
So many times, I have offered to kick some man's ass for his actions. But damn, and I mean DAMN, what some women can do to other women? Deserves a good beating.
Need coffee...L~
that is the scary thing, I thought these women were stable, stable marriages, same Values...I have known them for almost 6 years now and since I dont have Family here they have become mine, we celebrate holidays together birthdays we se each other almost every day, our kids go to school together....I guess just goes to show you never really know someboddy.....
And about sisterhood...when I was a teen my girlfriends and I had a code we would not even date a girlfriend ex, to this day I would not....What happened to that...?