Sorry Hart! Nothing is worse than finding this out!

Im certain it would have continued If I didn't confront him-that's the dangerous and scarey thing. Craiglist in no joke! People carry many diseases and if you have one casual encounter after another then your chances of contracting a sexual transmitted disease are extremely high. Not to mention, my CH was still having sex with me.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I hope that is being an open book. Giving you all of his email and voicemail passwords. Full access. Tells you everything. Recovering from this is a painful and trying process.

I hear you, Hart. I'm not easily angered, and I didn't have much anger after finding out about the affair. But there was one thing I did become angry about, maybe two. But I told my wife under no circumstances was she ever to put my life at risk like that again. I made her cry that time, but I felt that was a good thing, so she'd take it seriously.

One of the reasons I never cheated on her, among others, is that I didn't want to risks my own health or pass on some life-threatening STD to her, like Aids or something. To me, the temporary pleasure isn't worth the risk, isn't worth playing Russian Roulette with you life and your spouses life. And it made me angry to think she was willing to risk my life for her moments of pleasure without me ever being aware of it. I personally don't understand why anyone would risk it, but apparently a lot of people do, don't care, don't think about it, only want to feed their passions no matter the consequences to them and everyone around them they will affect.

Anyway, sorry Hart you are going through this. Keep in mind the first few weeks are a roller coaster on the emotional front. There is no need to make any life-changing decisions right away. Let the ride slow down and you can make decisions when things are a little more stable, give it at least 3 to 6 months.

You can read some articles I've written that can be of help to get grounded here:
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/

There are a lot of good people here who know what you are going through. Feel free to ask questions, seek advice, or just vent. I found using the journals good for me too (you can read my whole story there over several posts).

I think he was equally likely to show up and meet someone who wanted money, as well as to meet someone whose "friends" were right outside the door ready to beat him up and take all his money, cards, etc.

Yeah, CL is basically a cesspool and it is only a matter of time till you get burned!

Yep! I found the exact same emails when I was pregnant. It's devastating. After I gave birth I ended up prying more out of him.

For me it was a deal breaker....

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. It seems to be a common thing for men to do this when their women are pregnant. It's devastating because you'd think people would try harder not to do anything to hurt their partners when they are bringing a child into the world.

Hope you hang in there....

Hart sorry your goIng through this and considering the time of year it must be really tough. Your are going to experience so many emotions be prepared for an emotional roller coaster ride. Just take care of your self, make sure to eat and rest (easier said than done). This site will help you. There are some wonderful people here that can help. Your not alone. Make sure H gets tested for std's. Wishing you the best of luck.

mee too! many years ago i found credit card bills for memberships to Adult friend finder.com & Ashleigh Madison. he had medical issues, and depression to deal with, and i forgave him, and figured he was acting out, because he figured his life wasn't going according to plan.
we managed to put things back on track. we sought Doctors and counselling, etc. Those kinds of websites should be illegal - i can't see a good reason for them existing other than to earn money, and wreak havoc on people's lifes. Maybe "those" kinds of sections on CraigsList should be banned too? I'm not "churchy" but its IMMORAL! and giving people methods & means to screw up. I know as the human race, all temptations are there for us to screw up, but why add fuel to the fire?? Prostitution is illegal in some places, isn't it? why not advertising for it in the .com's??

Many of the non hookup (supposedly) dating sites have tons of married men on them, blatant as Hell.
You can't circumnavigate whores. This is what liars and cheats DO. It is SO easy now.....
Hart, I am deeply sorry. Obviously... you will need to get yourself tested, don't you think?