Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I let my husband move back into the house in July. but things started happening again from what I could tell and I was just trying to catch my husband talking on a different cell phone then the one he knew I knew about. I was suspicious that he got a second one because I would walk into the bedroom and he would quickly hide something and I once heard it ring in his console and he would not show it to me. He got very mad at me for even asking. It was the same pattern before he left back in February. So Christmas eve when he stayed home and did not go with me and the kids he asked me to call before I came home. Well of cause I didn't and what I walked into was him chatting not on a phone but on this lap top I knew nothing about. It looked like a sex chat room, but I only had a fast glace. He was also drunk he is not suppose to drink being that he is an alcoholic and stopped 18 yrs ago. Well of cause we fought he said that these people are his friends. To make this shorter I am done, no more chances, but I cannot get him to leave he says he will leave when he wants to. He does leave the house for about 3 hours every night to talk on the phone or chat on line or who knows, maybe to meet someone although when I did have access to see the bill the phone numbers where all out of state. I am seeing a lawyer tomorrow I am just hoping that this will not get ugly for myself or the kids. I just want him to go I can't do this anymore
I'm praying for you and your children.
and has had a affair and ask for a temporary restraining order to the house....
the alcoholism can make them do these crazy things...i am older now and understand more and am educated now....there brain works different from non alcoholic...the alcohol is just like a person on drugs or cocaine...they are mentally sick.
they only think about self absorbed thoughts and actions,self pity,self righteous, evil thoughts and desires,no conscious or rational thinking at all...........
i would kick him out and make hiim go to aa and get clean and if he doesnt...end it and if he goes to aa......make him have 3 mths clean before coming home....
it worked for me and my h is a angel now and has his brain back and is rational and caring and compassionate and loving and sees how out of control he was...but it took 2 yrs of trying before i finally just kicked him out and would not let him come back until he had stopped drinking....and then it took him a couple of months trying to finally get it...that was his only option...and he is a different person to the point it is unbelievable...and he is so ashamed of all of his behavior....
you can force him to hit bottom by doing this and he wont stop until that happens.
my only mistake was not seeing he was a alcoholic sooner and trying to reason with him rather than kicking him out until he quit and got clean....
if i had known...it could be done that easily...i would have done it sooner but i had to read alot of books and talk to fellow aa people who advised me....
i was a enabler allowing him to do whatever without concrete lines and making him leave...his brother said to me...the only reason i dont do this...is my wife would never take it and neither should you....that is all he needs to know....he is a alcoholic and you are enabling him although you havent realized it yet....
I thank god now that he gave me the courage and the patience and the guidance to get to where i am now with him bec it is huge
Please be careful. Follow your heart and God Bless You and your family.
And, remember- all attorneys don't have the same price tag. Many of them just flat out overcharge. When I went through my divorce, I was quoted 2,000 up front, 1200.00 up front then money per hour AND THEN 300 to file. If he fights it, then by the hour. Ultimately, I ended up doing it myself, which is ANOTHER thing you can do.
I filed PRO SE. Granted, I'm a paralegal and it was much easier on me, but there ARE pro se packages you can find online and buy. Pro Se just means on behalf of yourself. If it gets messy, you will need to call in a lawyer though.