I use ambien - it knocks me out and I don't seem to dream at all with that medication.

Can't really control your dreams - but you can control how they affect you.

I have had difficulty with dreams affecting my day and mood as well I try and listen to music or work out to relieve the stress. Hope you feel better. Take care.

I am troubled by nightmares as well. I wake up my dirt bag husband and make him apologize! The way I see it, I never would have these dreams if he didn't do what he did.

He apologizes and I do feel somewhat better.

I also have a dream dictionary and try to see what my brain is trying to tell me! All my bad dreams have to do with the other woman. I still sense her to be a threat. They still work together!

It's been over three years since my husbands affair and I still have nightmares of him cheating on me. It seems and feels so real and even at times so painful I wake myself up because I can't bare the pain. I sometimes wake up crying. My nightmares are so vivid and usually in great detail. It's no fun at all! When I'm awake I don't think of the affair anymore unless occasionally something triggers my memory of it. I used to tell him about my dreams but don't anymore because it makes him mad. So I keep them to myself. I feel for and I'm sorry you have bad dreams.

I had horrid issues with nightmares and insomnia in the beginning. 2.5 years later I very rarely have nightmares about him cheating (maybe once in the last six months?)

I ended up with a prescription, as well, in those early months when the anxiety and stress were so high. (It was a multi purpose med which also helped with unrelated physical problems.) It's not the right course of action for everyone, but it may be worth talking to your doctor.

Meditation helps me a great deal, now. I also find that when anxiety, stress, or emotion (dream related, current, or past brought on by triggers) start to get out of control or overwhelming, I do better when I remind myself of the reality of the moment. "I am safe right now. I am cozy and warm in my bed. Bad things happened in the past, but RIGHT NOW my husband is in bed next to me and if I reach out to him he will comfort and console me."

And then - sometime - asking my husband to hold and comfort me - as a reminder of what is NOW.

It seems like the intensity and frequency of the nightmares does fade over time. Hang in there and take care of you.

I work out (push ups, weights) until either I'm so exhuasted I fall asleep, or until the physical pain is worse then the emotional pain...then shower and sleep...