Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have been dating this guy for 3.5 years and I hate to say it but he has cheated several times and stupid me keeps taking him back. We have lived together for the last year and he has been going out of town alot due to his job. He went to PA 2 months ago and there was one night I couldn't get ahold of him and he gave me this story and of course I beleived him. He left last week and again one night I couldn't get ahold of him I called him / texted him called his room etc. The next morning he texted and said he went to the casino and was drinking and didn't wnt to tell me b/c he was going to drink. He said he loved me but sometimes I care to much and he just wanted trust. Sunday I checked his messages and there was a girl on there telling him to call her I got the number and called her and asked her abt them and of course she had no idea abt me. So when i asked him abt her he said that he has felt trapped with me for the last year and if he would of told me he wanted out I would of freaked, so this girl texted me the next morning and wanted to talk. She said that he told her tht he told me to leave him alone and he was just going to tell me that so I wouldn't harass her b/c I was crazy and that if I couldn't have him no one could. He told her so many lies and said he hadn't seen me in a couple of months which is a lie b/c he lives with me I told her everything he had in his suitcase. She kept going on how beautiful she is and can have any man she wanted and that he has bought everything and even bought her flowers. The night I called him she was in his room. Am I really crazy like he making me out to be? He told me he is done with her but is he really or is he just telling me that so he will have a place to come back home to?
Better to focus on yourself and deciding that you are worth more than this and deserve more respect and love than he is capable of offering right now. Maybe he'll grow up one day and maybe he won't, but you don't have to be part of his confusion and suffer for it in the meantime. I say let him go.
Hugs, CR64
Perhaps ask yourself this question: "Do I want to live the rest of my life like this?"
I think they think it makes them look better like they are innocent victims to a potential new one. They believe their own stories. In my case my H prided himself on helping women, the silent do gooder, which was ok before we were married, after was where the problem came up. H kept implying I was jelous that sort of thing. Putting back on me for his wrong doing with OW whether it was emotional or physical doesnt matter, mine wasn't honest with me for his own gains what ever they were. After he got caught as I feel with most men, not all they didn't think they would be caught and mine wanted everything as it was before, a nice home to come home to, a hot meal and my door mat attitude I had prior to DD.
I told mine the other night I was a doormat before, but no more. If he wanted to continue to think he had it bad because I took good care of him before while he had a younger friend at work to play up to then so what. It's about me now and I don't care what he says. I know how I feel and I know I am not crazy. He is not honest with you like mine wasn't. Mine still isn't, men want the familiar comforts no matter what they do, they will tell you what they think you want to hear.
Consider yourself, not him, if he is giving her flowers or what ever he is doing know this behavior will continue with her or someone else. I feel bad for you, don't sell yourself short because of his lack of brains and compassion. He apparently wants you to feel this way so he does have something left to come home to after the other ones find out what a jackass he really is.