I have a very close friend who is having extra marital relations. Sara has been married for nearly 15 years to a good man who takes good care of her. She has wonderful kids. I have spoken with her about her tendencies and how it concerns me that she continues to find herself in these situations. She has helped me in some particularly tough times in my life, and I love her dearly. I have discussed with her the idea of seeking personal counceling (rather then marital) as I feel she is attempting to fill a void of some sort. I know her husband well, and while I am not 'walking in her shoes' it is clear that he is caring, trusting, a good provider, honest, loving, etc, etc. Not to mention he is my friend as well. Each time she has an encounter she shares with me the details. And each time I worry for her future. I know if he were to find out he would likely consider walking away from the marraige as he has dealt with her on again off again anticks, and his disapproval of an open marriage. I no longer know what to do. He and I work together and I have to see him daily and it gets increasingly harder for me. I am a loyal friend to her. At the same time I feel very uncomfrtable being in the middle. I am not sure what to do next. She is gone for a week now and I have tried reaching her to tell her dont do this. . . Any advice on what to do/not to do, what to say to her....?
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