Care01, yes I am angry...jealous--no. All he had to do was break it off if it wasn't working for him...told him that. Personally, the comment was rude but so be it. No I'm not in denial, I have been through this with my exH so believe me I'm quite the opposite. We have been together for a number of years, so frankly, I'm completely surprised...all has been ok. I'm understanding people will do anything as long as they feel they won't get caught.

@fiberjunkie...yes I get the butterfly feeling...most do when starting a relationship. I still had that when we were together doing stuff, still after 3 years. I never equated to them as fear. Hmmmm, makes me think.

As always I appreciate the comments--good or bad. It's a learning experience. I can probably say with certainty, I'm done with dating, relationships, etc. For me the price isn't worth it. I am going to the doctor to make sure I'm ok, then move on from there.

Wow, does the drama ever end?

So sorry llmt, that he has chosen this skanky choice! But I do agree with another member here, about your anger being aimed at your boyfriend and not as much towards the skank! However....with that being said, check out the white pages too, and oftentimes you get the husbands name, as well, depending on how they do their finances.

But I sure as hell, would want him to know, since she didn't give you any respect, I would be tempted as hell to tell him, even if I had to pay $30 to do a background search! To me, it would be money well spent. Problem is, what do you do in the meantime, with the boyfriend? I'm leaning in the direction of keeping him in the dark, like he did you, and avoiding him pretty much until you decide what you want to do, and how you want to proceed! What a colossal jerk he is! Duh, can't he see and feel how beautiful and genuine of a person you are???? That really sucks, cuz like you said, he knows your background, and swore to never contribute to such crap, and yet he did!!! Jerk!!!

my Soon to be ex had an emotional affair it was only emotional becuae the guy lived in another state, then he died, now we seperated due to that, and we are not getting back together, but my ex best friend is now seeing my wife, i have layed down the law so to speak as it regards to him havnig any dealings with my kids, and i have told her i could care less what she does, but anytime she gets the chance she drops his name to me like i care, so she is trying to stir a pot and get a reaction from me, and i did not do anything to deserve it, (ok i probably should not say i did nothing, , we had marital problems that were cause by issues on both sides) but the only infidelity was by her. not me, so being in the middle of such an event makes me a little angry and i say stir the pot, but i also say he is only a boyfriend, dont stir too hard, cause its only gonna fall back on you in the form of stress, somehow

Hi BG *WAVES*. Can you believe it? After what you and I dealt with the first time around with my ex? I tried I thought I'd open my heart. Well, ya see...I got a really great picker...lol. Love and missed you BG.

getting...I'm already stressed. I need this like I need a hole in the head. Who wouldn't be stressed wondering if they are carrying a disease now? My fault there, also, I suppose.

I think I have decided to wait until I have the "full monty" of what I want to say. I will wait for any test results, and whatever, rather than spewing. Other than that, I will just state my peace and bear good riddance. Some things just are not worth the oxygen I breathe. I lost it when I found the emails from my ex....I hauled out and punched him upside the side of the head and threw them at him. It was the second time around for me with him and I lost it. I don't want to be that person, this time. He isn't worth my energy.

I agree, he's not worth one breath,
He's not worth one ounce of thought,
He's not worth anything,
To you at this point,

but he'll be so worth it ,
to be gone, from your life!!!
You are so way better than that!
You always were,
and will be.....

He doesn't deserve you now, or ever!
Amen