I wouldn't bother contacting her. People like that don't care what you or I think or if what they are doing is good, bad, right, wrong or indifferent. Since she is married I would pass that information along to her husband. He deserves to know so he can make informed choices about his relationship.

What he does with that information is up to him but at least he will know.

I wish knew her husband, but I do not. I only know her name thru FB and he profile is private. I agree, she probably won't care but when she contacts him that I know at least he can come after me. Then let the fireworks start.

I agree her husband should know. When i found out that my significant other was having her thing with her ex, i contacted his wife (who i had seen text messages to my signifant other asking her to leave her husband alone), and it became a joint effort on my end and her end to make sure our other halfs ended it.
That being said it is hard to do that if you dont have contact information. I would start by a simple google search on the woman you know the name. you may get lucky and find the husbands name and numbers. Otherwise send him a friend request on FB and in the request message let him know.

I don't even know his name...I only know hers. I could do a google search, I guess. I'm really sick about it and in the end...maybe he won't care. She is a fat skanky ho, just like my exH's skanky ho. WTF, then get a divorce or don't even get married in the first place. I really don't think I am that horrible looking, yet you really have to see this OW. I can't believe my bf would even want her....it behooves me as he has made comments about how she's ballooned since hs, etc. Thank you.

i weighted similar options when i caught my wife, and finding out if the guy was married, turns out his story was straight out of Jerry Sopringer it either would have been ignored or they would not have cared. end result though in my case the first guy died, not sure why, and now she is with my ex bf,

my advice deal with you and your process and healing yourself, and takign care of you, i am so sorry it happened to you twice. but let them find out about the others issues, you getting caught in the middle while its doing the right thing might do more damage for you.

This has NOTHING to do with the OW....it has to do with your BF.
Why would you bother with her when your BF is your problem.

If you are going to confront someone, it should be your BF.

Do you want to be with a cheating BF?

Short answer is NO...I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with that one. It's easy bc I have no ties to her....I just want both to know I know. Sad but true. I will probably walk away, as usual, with nothing to be said.

I hate to say it, but I like to see people squirm. Initially, it's gratifying, in the end one of the other parties won't care. Such is life.

I'd say go on and do it. just make sure when you do that he's not around. If she contacts him and tells him I'm sure he'll be "on alert" the next time he's around you (if he has the balls to come back around you that is). Then you can tell him goodbye. You didn't deserve to have this happen the first time, you definitly don't deserve it again. Dump the loser, and from your profile pic you're quite the looker. You'll find a guy a hundred times better than that loser in no time.

I would do a google search to find her husband;s name and search him on facebook and let him know. He deserves to know for sure. You are beautiful and you deserve better, much better and her husband deserves to know the truth. I would let you bf know exactly why you are leaving him as well. Im very sorry for your pain

My finest moment was telling the husband of the whore bitch. He promised me he would protect me and not tell anyone who told him.
He was so grateful. I would recommend you do the same. You can find out. Actions have consequences and these cheaters have to face their consequences! So go for it.

Agree with most everyone above. Infidelity is a very serious offense. There MUST be consequences. Try INTELIUS.COM. You should be able to at least get the husband's name from it.

And moving forward, sharpen your vetting skills for a future mate.

i would suggest you make you bf squirm. She is not your issue. are you jealous, afraid, or just dam angry? do not forget denial is not a river in Egypt. sounds like your bf is looking for another piece of ass.

hurt people hurting more people. be careful that boomerang has a return.

When you talk about walking away, as usual, I hear a pattern of selection error. Lots of women, myself included, are attracted to men who give us that feeling of 'butterflies'. What we often don't recognize is that fear can give us the same feeling. We mistake fear for passion and that leads to choosing partner after partner who is harmful to us.

However you choose to deal with your current situation, you can gsin greater awareness of your own processes so that you don't find yourself here again. A great starting point: Addictive Relationships:Why love goes wrong in recovery, by Terence Gorski. Don't let the title turn you off. It's a great resource for defining healthy versus dysfunctional relationship patterns, and he explains the idea of selection error in detail.

You know - I'm all for making them squirm. Several options;

tell him you just found out you have an STD - then watch his face - and watch to see if he tells her.

basically - play on his worst fear and let him squirm for a while. Then just walk away with your head held high.