I'm not so certain its a subconscious thing as in trying to tell you something, but what I am certain is that I get a feeling of having experienced something similar and it feels, connected to something, irony? fate? that there's some kinda reason for it... to balance out or bring awareness to something else in your life thats happening...

I can't say I have had the same kind of nightmares you have or that they affected me in the same way, however what I can say is this:

I am a true believer that nightmares are all about emotion rather than any particular dream symbology, so to me it doesn't matter if its a shark or a toothbrush chasing you, its how you feel about the situation. I used to be plagued by nightmares when I was a kid, the way I got over them was partly growth, partly the fact that I realized that a dream doesn't affect or hurt my waking life in any form other than my behaviour as a result of experiencing the dream...

the thing with nightmares is, ironically if you could simply ignore them they wouldn't be a problem, but because thats not possible the dream situation brings you into a state of awareness/alertness, due to that you take in more detail/notice/sensory data about the situation itself, which makes you even more scared because you are being faced with a situation that you have now seen/noticed theres even more to be scared of... and you'll be in a position to more readily notice something like this again...

The dream can often perpetuates itself that way... since I cannot tell you how you feel, (nor do I believe anyone can, aside perhaps from guessing or at least attempting to empathise) it is you who has to learn to overcome this...

All I can do is try to keep you informed in a way that perhaps something I said may occur to you during the dream, hopefully a truth that eases the situation, that you remember all your doing is dreaming... (nightmares at least are by definition lucid dreams)...

With any luck, like me you may come out of this with the gift of lucid dreams of your own choosing, rather than being stuck in the horror of one you appear to have no control over...

Hope this helps and I wish you good luck and many future Sweet Dreams!

Also note: Infidelity is a basis from reality for your dreams and is something I havn't come across before or tried to help someone with, so some of this may not even apply in your case...

Another note: if none of that helps, there is one other option that is far more difficult, that is facing the dream, explore everything you can about it, which is the last thing most people suffering nightmares wish to do, but if you keep experiencing it, the more you do the less fear it can invoke on you, you get desensitized to it eventually, if not you may simply see the dream for what it truly is, that all it is simply a dream... which sounds like a small thing the way it is said, but the actual realization is something far more profound, and takes away your need to be scared in the first place... the problem with attempting to desensitize is (aside from mental fragility/illnesses if they are indeed anything that is a factor here) that it is unlikely to happen first time round... and of course as I said before, experiencing the dream is generally the last thing the person with nightmares wants to do (and sounds counterproductive to the goal of not being scared anymore) ...

Again, hope this helps...

The nighrmares from cheating come to my dream too. So many so many times that I hope they are just dreams, no matter how bad they are. The hardest part, as one of us quoted, is when you wake up.

Sometimes, my 2 year old wakes up with me, with his warm tears on me because mommy is not around anymore.

This is the part that I will never never forgive.

when i was just date my husband and i. it was 2 years together and i had this dream. that i hidden on the side of the build where he use to live. he was with a woman. and went in his apartment together. i got up to his apartment. and heard him say to her i am going to the bathroom. you can get ready.he came back and now i was hiding on the side of his room. and saw everything so came out . and said what this and she said who are you. I said i am his grilfriend for 2 years. that when i wake up.