Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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gettingitstraight 05/30/2013

its been 6 months since the evil one told me she was having affairs and wanted out of our marriage, having two kids and our work situation there were alot of hurdles to jump through. but i have learned how to be me again, something i have not been in the 13 years of being married to a codependant person who i unfortunately had to enable alot cause of how things were, i have found my love of things again that i forgot how much i enjoyed, something as simple as watching baseball, and imagine that the Pittsburgh Pirates (local team) are having a good season, first one in like 20 years, i found that just doing things that before seemed like work i enjoy again, like working on my house. she moved out i am still in our house, that was kind of weird at first but now i am ok with it.

i learned that even being apart from her, we still have our issues and i am thankful she did what she did now and we are not together the stress level was unbearable at times.

i have learned so much and hope to learn more.

the only negative i can say is i am lonely at times but hopefully will start looking for someone to date soon and end that part, but i just felt like writing this to say with the write outlook there is hope for all of us

onyx11 05/30/2013

I am about a year out now - divorce will be final at the end of July.

I think about 11 months out - I was thinking what a total knucklehead/shelfish/shallow idiot my STBX actually is - she has caused so much damage and money draining - only one who wins in a divorce is the lawyers - but I am glad I am not with her - shes a POS.

I do find things to be much better personally and I laugh a lot more and enjoy things a lot more. I think full totally healing will be in year 2 where I just have completely adjusted and am extremely glad I got rid of her. Only sorry for my boys - if I had no children with her - I would be pretty much fully happy right now.

The death and the family for my 2 boys is what upsets me now.

gettingitstraight 05/30/2013

Onyx for my daughters i do my best to make it as seamless as possible, i live in the same house and because the STBX works midnights they are with me 5 minghts a week so when they are with me nothing seems different except you dont have to have a knife to cut the tension in the air anymore we have more fun

onyx11 05/30/2013

what your CS and my STBX did was find happiness through sin. The grass is greener on the other side nonesense - instead of communicating and holding up whatever stupid resentment anyone can hold up.

As Cole has said - you never go outside the marriage to "think" that will help fix any problem. Doesn't fix any problem - just makes things 100 times worse - if you still live with her - that has got to sux.

Hopefully one of you can get out - I still have the house - her AP helped move her out into some crappy apt.

2 stupid idiots blowing smoke up each others butts of pure awesomeness nonsense - that has a shelflife/time period of diasaster. ETA - who gives a shitznet.

deleted_user 05/30/2013

Much props bro, it's hard trying to be a good dad and keep the kids happy while your partner tries her best to fuck up everyone's world for her own selfish needs. Just remember that your kids will see you as the upstanding guy you are. Stay strong, excersize (seriously, I found that working out is an amazing way to push through the depression. Makes you tired enough to sleep so no staying up all night, you'll feel good afterwards, and the idea of that bitch seeing you looking good will make you feel like a boss)

deleted_user 05/30/2013

and things will get better

deleted_user 06/01/2013

I wish my EH had done what she did 5.5 years ago. He never admitted he had an affair up till today. He also waited for 3 years to file for divorce while I thought we might get back together. Since he filed on his own the paper kept getting rejected and to the point I was really angry I had to sign the paper so many times and couldn't make the signature readable. He then used the no response reason to file again w/o my signature. It was finally dissolved 12/12/12. He still comes home on certain days of the weekend, but I finally found out he has been with the same woman with a daughter for 5.5 years and now her mother even lives with them. They are like a real family. I am ready to kick him out of the house.

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