Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My wife told me on Nov. 12 that she had ended an affair in October that had lasted since July 2014. I was absolutely blindsided. I wrote one post here back in November but haven't posted since. We are doing really well overall - she has been completely committed and remorseful. We've had one couples therapy session (more scheduled this month), I've been in therapy, and she has started individual therapy too. I am still suffering tremendously in my thought life, my eating, my sleep. In the long term I feel optimistic about our future... but in the short term I'm still very day by day. My brain just can't seem to process these last few years in light of the new information. I feel powerless that I can't do anything about it... it all just happened, and I had no control over it. Every day is a struggle and sometimes it gets really old. But every day does seem to bring at least a little bit of progress too. I'm hoping we can be in a much better place by the end of 2018 than we are at the start.
I also agree that if she is doing everything she can to help you heal, communicate, and be open then time will heal.
First half year will be rough but it is a gradual improvement in terms of frequency and depth of the lows.
Just get through each day knowing that it does improve the farther you get from D-day and the farther she gets from who she was.
I found the emotions come in very distinct waves. Longer positive periods of reconnection with my wife were followed with shorter negative periods of anger, disgust and sorrow. Then a longer upbeat period would follow. It is important to identify the triggers.
The key is to witness shorter negative periods and longer positive periods.
As heartache5 said as long as you feel more good then bad you are on the right track.