No, they wouldn't hurt a person they love like that. And, the fact that she lies that way makes her a sick person. Something wrong with her, not something wrong with you. Be glad that you broke it off, and keep it that way. Search out someone that can actually care about another person. Cheating is ultimately selfish. Selfish isn't loving.

Because they are self centered and manipulative. They can pretend to be a human being when it helps them to get what they want. Then they get bored with sucking the life out of you, blame you for it, play the victim in public.

Some people are just selfish assholes. And for her to blame you says so much about her and that she is utterly clueless as to the fact that she CHOSE to do that.

If you weren't man enough for her? Then she should have left you and then picked up with whatever manly man would have her.

I know the scars that hang around after we get burned can keep us from letting another in, but if you want a relationship with another in this life time....you'll have to at some point. And you will...when you're ready. Nothing wrong with allowing yourself time to heal as you can and all of that...but in the long run, it doesn't do us much good to punish a new person for what the old ones did to us.

'why would someone hurt someone like this that they said they loved...'

Now, I could say that this isn't love. At least, it isn't to me. But it could be for your EX. Sure, for me, cheating and lying and playing these head games is not love and is not healthy, but it could be part of who your EX is as a person.

Yes, I can look back now and say my EX did love me, but HOW he loved me was kinda shitty, what with the name calling and lying and cheating. And that was how he loved.

So, maybe your EX did love you, but how she loved? Not good enough. I am especially turned off by her level of maturity as she gets angry so she can spout off hurtful stuff and degrade you.....she's not a keeper.

On this one, maybe it's best for you to count yourself lucky that she's gone. Cuz keeping her around would just be a level of bullshit that no one deserves.

L~

She is like a spoiled kid, she lashes out when she doesn't get her way. I am do glad it's over, I guess I just have to let someone else in.

she is showing a very passive agressive form and wanting to put all her guilt into blaming you.
take none of it and be done with her

"You're not man enough for me"??? WHO says that???

She needs to self-justify her rotten behavior. It's one thing to try and address whatever issues exist in the relationship DURING the relationship, but it is an entirely different thing to use those issues to justify bad behavior AFTER the affair.

Spoken like a true narcissist. You are not man enough nor will you ever be good enough for her in her own little world. Never her fault, the victim in all of this and nothing you do will ever be good enough for her.

There are good reasons to end a relationship, but never is there a good reason to cheat while in a relationship. Don't give her another reason to cheat on you, you ended it because she cheated so now let her find another reason to cheat on someone else. Don't let it be you again.

She definitely Narcissistic, I rather be alone than be with her.

I am very sorry for your pain. I was married 28 years and came home to a half empty home, a note taped to an inside door frame and an empty bank account. My spouse is bipolar, but has also been cheating on me for years, multiple different people. You will survive...it will be awful for a while, but you will be okay. I can't stress that enough....I was terrified of being alone, of not being able to financially make it...it has been tough but I am happier! Money is still tight and it does get difficult when you reach for the phone to call that familiar number...keep your chin up...hugs!!!!!!

You aren't man enough?! Really!!! You aren't the low life cheating scum bag! Sounds to me her bipolar is not under control. There are 3 kinds of bipolar and one is manic meaning they are very reckless and do things including sleeping around, binge drinking, etc. they have no empathy for anyone. You are better off without her. Find someone who enjoys doing the things you do and is grounded in their convictions.