Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Well, yesterday way the 1st anniversary, per se, of my Dday. We are on our annual vacation at the same beach, but in a different condo, with our kids. Yes, I found out on day 2 of family vacation last year, hearing him on the phone begging her to forgive him for something and how he could not live the rest of his life without her. This was with me and my kids in the next room.
Filed for divorce last Nov, reconciled in Jan, found out he was STILL seeing her in March and that he had never stopped in March.
He came clean with everything and I have allowed him to stay and try to win me back. There is no end to anyhthing he will do to helo me feel secure and lived. I finally said love to him again. But I have been clear it is not the same.
I will never trust him again. Everything is suspect. I have GPS on him and access to all his accounts, that I know of. He has admitted to being a kife ling liar and is kuvibg in the lught of truth and transparency now.
But, 5 mos out, I can still go completely crazy over a slight change.
That said, regular days are good...we share love and raise our children withthe ease of a couple deeply committed to each other.
I am flooded with thoughts of the past at times, but now is the worst. I am feeling distant and angry with him. I have nausea and anxiety. When I mentioned why I was distant being the 1 year reminder, he was contrite. But later, when we were reminiscing over a happy time that I could not remember a detail about, he suggested I remember too much about bad times and not enough about good times. This may be true.
But I am so torn up right now, I just want to escape. I have no where to go, like at home.
It is easier than 3 mos ago, but I am still waiting to find out something again. Always feel like it is just around the corner. I just keep telling myselfto breathe and take one day at a time...
This is soooo difficult....
Filed for divorce last Nov, reconciled in Jan, found out he was STILL seeing her in March and that he had never stopped in March.
He came clean with everything and I have allowed him to stay and try to win me back. There is no end to anyhthing he will do to helo me feel secure and lived. I finally said love to him again. But I have been clear it is not the same.
I will never trust him again. Everything is suspect. I have GPS on him and access to all his accounts, that I know of. He has admitted to being a kife ling liar and is kuvibg in the lught of truth and transparency now.
But, 5 mos out, I can still go completely crazy over a slight change.
That said, regular days are good...we share love and raise our children withthe ease of a couple deeply committed to each other.
I am flooded with thoughts of the past at times, but now is the worst. I am feeling distant and angry with him. I have nausea and anxiety. When I mentioned why I was distant being the 1 year reminder, he was contrite. But later, when we were reminiscing over a happy time that I could not remember a detail about, he suggested I remember too much about bad times and not enough about good times. This may be true.
But I am so torn up right now, I just want to escape. I have no where to go, like at home.
It is easier than 3 mos ago, but I am still waiting to find out something again. Always feel like it is just around the corner. I just keep telling myselfto breathe and take one day at a time...
This is soooo difficult....
I would not worry about your husband's comment about remembering too much about the bad times and not enough about the good. That's
probably just his guilt talking. Your whole world was shattered. Kate is
right, so much as been tainted. You don't need to let him make you feel bad, and shame on him for trying.
What has helped me is actually spending more time with my H. Are there grandparents who can take the kids for a weekend? Maybe a
friend could take them for a sleepover?
Try telling him you need to have him reinforce his commitment to you.
Don't let him tell you he's doing all he can. Let him know that it was like an earthquake that destroyed your world and it takes time to rebuild.
If you can, take time for just you. too. Has school started yet? Can you have a day just for you? Sometimes just changing the channel in your brain works wonders.