It's a shame such a wonderful tool as facebook can be to some - it is hell for so many as well. It's the intentions it is used for in so many instantces that gives facebook a black eye.

Like I said, Facebook & networking SUCKS.
I've avoided then for a long time. My H opened up an account a while back so he could monitor our kids but it's on my checklist of things to go through and change or monitor now.
I've been bugged by a lot of my friends and family to join FB. If it weren't for keeping track of our kids I'd ask H to delete his account, but the alternative is to create an account together.

I don't understand why your wife would still have those pics up unless she just hasn't been active on the account. I had a website once I couldn't figure out how to edit or delete, so it's possible she just neglected it. But I'd certainly take the bull by the horns now and put a stop to it, by either having her delete the account or creating one together.

I'm sorry about this discovery for you, you have the right to be upset and take action.

That's horrible...

While my W immediately disconnected from the OM on Facebook (and everything else), I told her that it really bothered me that she still maintained contact with the rest of the band (she cheated on me with the lead singer). Particularly because the rest of the band knew about the A. I also told her that I hated the fact that she was still in touch on FB with all the other men she'd had EAs with over the years.

She reluctantly agreed to remove her contact with them. I'm glad she agreed to do it, but her reluctance was pretty infuriating. Most of these people she hasn't had contact with in years, but the fact that she already had an emotional affair with them makes it unacceptable. Years ago, when I found out about one of the EAs (not really knowing it was an EA, not really knowing what an EA was), then found out she tracked the guy down on FB, I was furious! Basically, it tells me she values those non-existent "relationships" more than she values her relationship with me.

As Trust said, FB can be great, but it can really muck up the works, too. I think you should tell your W how you feel. Give her an ultimatum if need be; her behavior is unacceptable.

I am mad as h*ll, but it is a fine line, I know she has not been on facebook for at least a month and a half, I know this for a fact as she was in rehab for a pain pill addiction. But on the same token it does hurt that she wants to maintain these acquaintances that obviously dont care what I think.

i hate facebook.

How are you going to handle this?
Will u confront her?

I plan to confront her as tactfully as possible tonight, stay tuned....

If they are tagged , then she didn't necessarily put them up, right? So anybody who has copies of these photos could have put them up. Just saying. It doesn't sound as bad as my situation. When I confronted my Wife about people on her facebook, she changed her password so I couldn't get in there. Like that looks real innocent. A year and a half later, still don't know where we are going to end up.

Crawlup is right. The pics could have been put up by someone else, however the OM must be on her list of friends if he is being tagged....... or perhaps she is the one being tagged which would mean she has nothing to do with it.

I know she didn't put up the photo, but my point is what sort of friends does she have to put that up knowing the situation with us? I would not tag a photo like that to anyone if I knew how that went down.