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Hi girls,
It looks like my sister is pregnant again (this will be her third) and I don't know how to deal with it. The problem is that she
1) Wasnt even trying and
2) Is really upset that she may be pregnant (she actually said that she would rather be dead than have another one!)
I obviously would die to be in her place right now and I feel that it was just so unfair that she is the one who is pregnant and I am still here hoping that this cycle is it (I have two days to go on my 2ww and I already have all the symptoms of AF coming so I am not holding my breath...).I just don't know how I'm going to cope with her moping around and telling everyone how disappointed she is (she did that with her second for about 2 months!) and telling me that it is supposed to be MY TURN to get preggo (like I havent been trying)not hers!
Life is just so unfair!!! I feel like going to bed and staying there for the next 9 months.....
It looks like my sister is pregnant again (this will be her third) and I don't know how to deal with it. The problem is that she
1) Wasnt even trying and
2) Is really upset that she may be pregnant (she actually said that she would rather be dead than have another one!)
I obviously would die to be in her place right now and I feel that it was just so unfair that she is the one who is pregnant and I am still here hoping that this cycle is it (I have two days to go on my 2ww and I already have all the symptoms of AF coming so I am not holding my breath...).I just don't know how I'm going to cope with her moping around and telling everyone how disappointed she is (she did that with her second for about 2 months!) and telling me that it is supposed to be MY TURN to get preggo (like I havent been trying)not hers!
Life is just so unfair!!! I feel like going to bed and staying there for the next 9 months.....
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I am so sorry. I cant beleive that your sister is saying this, and being so insensitive... Hang in there and dont give up on this cycle yet.. A lot of people have AF like symptoms when they get pg. I really hope that this IS it for you!! Good luck!
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i am so sorry. i feel your pain. there is nothing worse than hearing someone complain about getting pregnant when we want it sooooo bad, especially when it is your sister. i don't even know what to say except i am with you about going to bed and staying there for 9 months.....hang in there.
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I can so totally relate to you. I have a sister w/ 3 kids...without even trying. At one point, she told me that her sister in law was pregnant... with HER third and she wasn't happy about it. Hello!!! My best friend is pregnant with her 4th... all accidents. At one point my best friend told me that she would drink acid or have it sucked right out of her if she ever got pregnant again. What the hell is wrong with people!?!?!?! It definitely makes you distance yourself from people. Know that you're not alone in this IF situation. We're here for you.
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I am so sorry. I understand kinda how you feel. In 1999, I had just been given the diagnosis that I would never conceive when my "fertile myrtle" sister got pregnant with her 5th. What pissed me off was that she was 40 and trying to get out of her bad marriage. Then why was she sleeping with him? Duh! Then, there was a 13 year gap between the new baby and her next to youngest. Also, her oldest was getting married, and she thought the reason she had skipped AF was stress or she was having early menopause, and she most certainly didn't want to be pregnant. I didn't think I was asking a lot. I just wanted one baby and here she has 5. I was so angry. She was never really sensitive to my feelings then, nor now after I've had 3 miscarriages. We can't pick our families, it is true. It can really suck. I am with you. Don't feel bad for feeling hurt, she's the insensitive one.
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I am so sorry. Does your sister even realize how cruel she is being when she says those things? Or is she just looking for more attention by being miserable?
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I know how you feel, since I have been married my sisters have had 5 kids between them. It is so hard to hear someone complain about being pregnant. Good luck I hope you get your BFP!!!
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I think we can all relate to you. I'm a teacher and it's so hard to see parents who have lots of children and do not care for them. I would give anything to have just one. Good luck to you.
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