Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
mkpatz
Sorry everyone, this is going to be a good old fashioned bitch/vent session. But if one more person tells me that "You just need to relax!" or "You just need to not think about it!" I might punch them in the face. Like right in the face. Because it's always ALWAYS someone who didn't have trouble conceiving who says that. If your experience was that you stopped using contraception and then one day noticed that your boobs were sore and thought "Oh my gosh maybe I should take a pregnancy test!" you need to not give me advice. Now having said that, of course I know that ideally we should be relaxed and calm. We are all striving to find a place of peace and acceptance with this process. Sometimes I get there. Some days not. Sometimes the meditation, yoga, therapy, support and love of friends and my husband isn't enough to stop the roller coaster of emotions and the hell of prescribed hormones. Sometimes i feel like shit and full of doubt and yeah- stressed and anxious. But i'm hanging in there the best I can. We all are right? So unless we ask you for advice: don't f*cking tell us to relax! Hopefully I don't get charged with assault. : )
wweila
I know what you mean! I can fully relate to this-especially punching someone in the face. I'm unfortunately the only one facing infertility in my family. Everyone seems to want to put their nose where it doesn't belong! My response is always a tight smile and in my head I'm silently saying -go f*** yourself!!!
blbnjf
I think you just wrote a story about my life- haha! I am so sick of people who just don't get it... I just want to scream at them all! And it's such a double edged sword because I would love for people in my life to really get it, but at the same time I would never wish this on my worst enemy- I don't want anyone to have to go through the pain I have endured; the pain that all of us are currently enduring. But I certainly don't want any advice from anyone who was able to get pregnant easily- that's for damn sure!
BecMarie
Hahahahahaha this post just made my night. Amen sister! Once my best friend who got pregnant "by accident" twice now since I've been trying (although they weren't using protection and what the fuck do you think can happen when you don't so, in my eyes they were trying!) told me the second time she was pregnant that she didn't realize it until 10 weeks! Could you even imagine not having to do serial betas and a 7 wk ultrasound and then wait on pins and needles for 2 more ultrasounds?? Nice! Just beautifully ignorant that she's 10 weeks. Sigh....maybe in our next lives? I feel ya girl!
mkpatz
Ha! Thanks guys! Your replies just made my night. So nice to know i have a safe and understanding place to rant when people are idiots.
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