I don't know much about FETs so I can't give you medical advice, but if I were you I would really just trust the doctors opinion. If it were an issue, or if she thought it would greatly increase your odds of success, I am sure she would have communicated that to you.
I don't think it is selfish to want to continue, in fact, I think maybe stress or nervousness is making you second-guess yourself.
I think you sound good to go!

Just a thought... I'm a little overweight at 150. My re didn't think it was a big deal so we went through and had success with iui. I lost extra weight after giving birth and hot pregnant on my own at 140. I've noticed that 150 is my fertile threshold. I've read that it doesn't take much weight loss to start seeing an increase in fertility. Plus, you will be more comfortable and healthier through your pregnancy. Best of luck no matter what you choose.

I have always struggled with my weight and decided to loss weight before my 1st IVF that Im currently on. My Doc advised me that studies have show that for every 5 % of body weight you can loss it can make a big different.
But in no way do I think you are selfish for wanting to go ahead with your FET. Stress can also play a role in your cycle . Here is an article about what studies have shown about weight loss and fertility.

http://www.shadygrovefertility.com/newsletter/smallest-weight-loss-can-improve-your-fertility

I have to agree with the other ladies. If your RE thinks that your chances increase significantly with the weight loss, I would recommend going that route before your FET just so you know that you did everything in your power to help make it work. If it won't change much, then maybe you being concerned about your weight is your mind's way of avoiding the heartache. I know I keep making excuses and putting off my FET beacuse i'm scared it won't work. My biggest standard when it comes to "should I or shouldn't I" with all this treatment stuff, is will I look back and be happy with how I handled it. Good luck!

I agree with the other ladies. I think if your RE thought it was a big deal, they would urge you to lose the weight and put off the FET. I was overweight when we started fertility treatments and questioned my doctor at the time on whether it would help. She said, of course, it wouldn't hurt and it would help me be healthier but that she didn't think it would have a significant impact. We went through multiple rounds of IUIs and TI cycles with no luck. I finally hit my peak and just didn't feel healthy anymore so I vowed to lose weight. I lost about 20# in a matter of 6 months and felt great. We then proceeded with an IVF and and FET that both failed but I somehow ended up pregnant on my own in March. I'm not sure whether it was the weight loss but I can say it won't hurt. Since I know the heartache of wanting something so bad, I would probably do this FET and go from there.

I was in that obese category as well and we had nothing but trouble with out TTC efforts for years. We had several cancelled cycles and failed IUIs before we finally faced the reality of the need to move on to IVF. We had to put it off for 1 year in order to save enough money for the procedure, but in that time, I lost 60 pounds which put me below obese and just overweight. I felt a lot better and I seemed to respond to the meds better. IVF may have worked if I hadn't lost the weight, but I absolutely believed it helped a lot that I did lose it. RE never made a big deal about my weight, but it was important to me to be the healthiest me I could be before I played hostess to our babies.

It is certainly your call and I understand your desire to move ahead as soon as possible, but for me...since we needed to take a little time off anyway, I tried to improve my odds as much as I could because I knew this would probably be our only shot.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do!!!

I'd say if you are set to go with the FET, and you have the option of trying again if it doesn't work, then go for it. However, if this is your last shot, I'd say take the time to lose some weight before moving forward. I've come to the conclusion that we want to say weight doesn't matter because we see so many for whom it doesn't. And we want to feel like we're ok even being overweight. However, the reality is that it does matter. It plays a huge role in fertility. We've had unexplained IF, trying for almost 2 years. No one can figure out what is wrong, other than "possible PCOS-like symptoms" and unreliable ovulation. At the beginning of the year, I decided that if I really wanted to say I had done everything I could possibly do to try and get pregnant, I had to lose weight and get healthy. If it still didn't work, then at least I would know I had gave it my all. In the last 6 months I've lost almost 50 lbs and started ovulating on my own consistently. I don't know if I'll ever get pregnant, but I feel so much better. And the mental boost of knowing I've truly done everything in my power to make it possible really helps on those rough days.
If you want, I can give you information on the program I used.
Good luck!

I can understand how you feel. I have struggled with this myself, I'm overweight too but my RE and my OB/GYN don't think its a problem. They suggested I lose 10 lbs if I can before IVF, and I managed to lose about 8. They told me that if anything, my pregnancy could be more uncomfortable and I'm at a higher risk for gestational diabetes and pre-ecylampsia. Those things freak me out, but sadly, with all the stress of IF, I have not been able to lose more weight. Bad excuse, I know. I have read and heard that even a small amount of weight loss can help with fertility, but of course it also depends on why you have IF. I would say just go for it. Either way, good luck and hang in there.

Thank you everyone for your honest opinions! We decided to move forward with the FET. I am working on my health at the same time. I think what some of you wrote was right- that I am protecting myself as well as second guessing myself. If this doesn't work, we will probably do a fresh cycle at the beginning of next year and I will continue to focus on my health. :)