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WinniePoo
WinniePoo
DH and I had a failed IVF and have decided to move on with adoption. We will still "try" without medical intervention while going through this process. A little background on me. In 2003 I had Gastric Bypass Surgery and lost 160lbs. Unfortunately I have gain 90 of that back...partly because I haven't eaten the proper foods and partly because they are doing the surgery differently now...mainly making the new stomach smaller. I may have the opportunity to "redo" the surgery with the new protocal. My dilema is that they want you to not even try having chldren for 18 months after surgery. I am worried that putting that off could make our timing even worse if we are to have a chance. However won't losing the weight also help with the possibilty of conceiving? I guess I'm just torn and would greatly appreciate any input and opinions.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am not sure but good Luck with your decision.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think in the grand scheme of things, going back in for a second operation may be the way to go. I know that weight issues have a great effect on fertility. I think that 18 months is not a bad trade off if you get to live a healthier, fuller life. Plus, I know you are trying to adopt now...that may help give you a healthier lifestyle and more energy for your new little one. Good luck. Hope this helps!
WinniePoo
WinniePoo
bump. i would really like to hear from anyone that has been through this surgery once already too
deleted_user
deleted_user
ok, so i have never had the surg. but i was 225 and am now 140 thanks to ww........ You seem like such a stong woman we have to be to go through ivf..... and not knowing you or your life really, but do you think you can loose the wt. without antoher surg..... a woman posted the other day, that she had the surg. and it effects the way her body absorbes med... so clomid didnt work for her.... nourish you bod. with healthy food, get the blood moving ..... just a thought
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with MLM4... I used to weigh about 220 and now I'm at 150 thanks to a year of Weight Watchers. It was hard and took a major commitment for change, but I didn't have to delay putting off trying to have a family. Plus, they have a special program for breast-feeding women that I plan to go on after having babies! I say avoid the surgery if you can... good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had the RNYGB about 5+ years ago. I can honestly say that I loved having it done and have only gained about 20 lbs of the weight back with all the IF stuff which isn't bad. At the time of my surgery I was told they want you to weight 1 year to stabilize the weight loss cause it's healthier...but I was also told that losing weight rapidly DOES make you super fertile since fat stores up hormones. So lose the fat - get a hormone boost!

IMHO - since you aren't losing AS much weight as before, and you know more about it, it would be safe for you to wait about 6 months and then start trying naturally. When you lose weight REALLY fast it's more dangerous but you would be losing weight a bit more slowly the 2nd time so your risk is lower. That said - ALWAYS trust and listen to your doctors. If your bariatric surgeon AND your RE agree - then I would wait the prescribed length of time and be safe rather than risk and be sorry.