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So the last few weeks have had hubby and I out and about with lots of social activities. Seeing friends we have not seen in a while and catching up with family. It seems like no matter where I go people are always asking about having kids, or saying when we have kids, or asking me if I am ready yet. Since I am still new at this I haven't been able to find a comeback yet. One that isn't too personal but will stop the conversation dead in its tracks before I am forced to elaborate.
Even today when I was at the store buying a birthday gift for hubby the guy asked if it was for my kids. I said I didn't have kids and he said "well when you do, they will love this!".
So what do you say to acquaintances that you don't feel comfortable sharing your personal information to, but you want to make stop talking?
Things I have tried:
We don't want children (but children are such a blessing, you will change your mind one day)
I don't think children are in the cards for us (you never know! it might just happen!)
We really enjoy our life just the way it is (its because you don't know what you are missing)
I actually can't carry a baby (Why not? Maybe you just need to relax. I have a great book/CD/yoga/meditation/doctor/natural remedy)
Things I would like to try:
Air horn with a red flag to indicate a personal penalty.
Large wooden mallet
A pop up sign saying "None of your damn business"
Even today when I was at the store buying a birthday gift for hubby the guy asked if it was for my kids. I said I didn't have kids and he said "well when you do, they will love this!".
So what do you say to acquaintances that you don't feel comfortable sharing your personal information to, but you want to make stop talking?
Things I have tried:
We don't want children (but children are such a blessing, you will change your mind one day)
I don't think children are in the cards for us (you never know! it might just happen!)
We really enjoy our life just the way it is (its because you don't know what you are missing)
I actually can't carry a baby (Why not? Maybe you just need to relax. I have a great book/CD/yoga/meditation/doctor/natural remedy)
Things I would like to try:
Air horn with a red flag to indicate a personal penalty.
Large wooden mallet
A pop up sign saying "None of your damn business"
but I know the other feeling ALL too well.....and people always want to get personal about why we adopted etc...I would like your wooden mallet idea to BONK them on the HEAD!
Questions like this would make me mad- like the Uncle I see once a year would ask me this. So I'd be somewhat vulgar and say, "We sure are practicing a lot!!" If it wasn't a random person, or if this was the second time they have asked, I also would throw in "but it just isn't working our for us. So it is a pretty upsetting situation for us" It would make them feel dumb, and never ask me again. Not everyone likes to share that type of personal stuff, but my husband and I were okay with it. I also hope my snarky comments stopped people from saying things like this to other couples!! We all know you can't just call up a stork and get a baby, apparently some people need to be reminded of that.
I have used often, "well, I am not sure nature has that in store for us." They normally change the subject.
Good luck!