Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Here's a list I started of some annoying, useless infertility advice well-meaning people have ALL been giving to me. Feel free to add your own!:
1. Just relax and you'll get pregant
2. Go on a vacation, you'll come back pregant. that's what happened to my friend.
3. You're young, you have your whole life to get pregnant
4. You're probably thinking about it too much.
5. Just start the adoption process, then you'll get pregnant. that happened to my sister, friend, etc.
6. I could never adopt, i don't want to raise someone else's child
7. Did you try the missionary position? that's what worked for me.
8. Maybe you just weren't meant to have a baby of your own
9. This is all part of God's plan. Maybe this isn't what His plan is for you.
10. At least you and your husband can travel and go out whenever you want. Since we had kids, we are stuck at home. You're lucky!
11. Why don't you borrow my kid for a day, you'll change your mind. He's a real handful.
12. Maybe you should buy a baby from China
13. You're making too big of a deal out of this, you should let nature take it's course.
14. Have they found out what's wrong with you? It must be something, i get pregnant just looking at my partner.
15. Does your husband wear briefs? That's probably why you can' get pregant.
Two of the best ones (from my mother in law)
16. Courtney, lighten up. You're putting too much emphasis on this. You're just making a mountain out of a molehill. These IVF things are like playing god. it's not natural. If you're patient it will happen on its own.
Sure, two years is a long time, but this whole treatment stuff sounds like you are overeacting.
1. Just relax and you'll get pregant
2. Go on a vacation, you'll come back pregant. that's what happened to my friend.
3. You're young, you have your whole life to get pregnant
4. You're probably thinking about it too much.
5. Just start the adoption process, then you'll get pregnant. that happened to my sister, friend, etc.
6. I could never adopt, i don't want to raise someone else's child
7. Did you try the missionary position? that's what worked for me.
8. Maybe you just weren't meant to have a baby of your own
9. This is all part of God's plan. Maybe this isn't what His plan is for you.
10. At least you and your husband can travel and go out whenever you want. Since we had kids, we are stuck at home. You're lucky!
11. Why don't you borrow my kid for a day, you'll change your mind. He's a real handful.
12. Maybe you should buy a baby from China
13. You're making too big of a deal out of this, you should let nature take it's course.
14. Have they found out what's wrong with you? It must be something, i get pregnant just looking at my partner.
15. Does your husband wear briefs? That's probably why you can' get pregant.
Two of the best ones (from my mother in law)
16. Courtney, lighten up. You're putting too much emphasis on this. You're just making a mountain out of a molehill. These IVF things are like playing god. it's not natural. If you're patient it will happen on its own.
Sure, two years is a long time, but this whole treatment stuff sounds like you are overeacting.
This comment is painful on multiple levels. First of all, it assumes defeat, like you will never conceive. It also removes all of the power from your hands — at a time when you may already feel like you are not in control. The person who is saying this isn't thinking about the deeper implications. She probably has no idea what to say. And instead of just keeping quiet, people grasp at clichés — not helpful. The best way to respond is not to. Silence can send the message that the comment was inappropriate.
After telling a friend we were about to start IVF ‘I'm not sure if I could do IVF. Surely it is nature's way of telling you that you weren't meant to be a parent’. Ironically, she is now going through IVF herself.
‘Are you trying again?’ - asked by my SIL at Xmas Dinner, in front of the whole family, days after my first loss.
And my fav - one of my friends told me she knows how I feel because quote ‘I tried for ages and thought it would never happen’. When I asked her how long she had tried she said about 5 months.
Hugs to everyone who's had something horrible said, some of these are unbelievably horrible. People are the worst!