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Losing All the Hopes

mysweetbaby1
mysweetbaby1
Trying for almost 5 years and having had a still birth and a surgery to remove an ovarian cyst that has damaged my fallopian tubes , now only at the age of 31 i have been diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve.
I don't know why i had to lose my only baby that i conceived miraculously with all the issues and i hate going to infertility doctors who give me heart breaking diagnosis.
Before i was told IVF would help but now when i decided to invest all my saving and take a chance i don't have eggs that could be fertilized.
I am trying for adoption and foster care but i know i will be disappointed here too. it is a long process with lots of requirements which i might not meet them.
i would never go for a donor egg and so all my options are exhausted and i think i will have to accept being childless.
Life is very cruel. I wanted to be a mother since i was very young and i feel like a failure. I hate my body and myself.
edorner
edorner
I know exactly how you feel. I tried IVF one egg retrieval, and three transfers with no success. My only choice now is keep trying the "normal" way or adoption/ foster.
BecMarie
BecMarie
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know there are people who struggle with the adoption/foster process, but there are also people who have amazing experiences! How do you know unless you try? It sounds like you would do anything to be a mom, just like so many of us on this site. Don't give up hope yet! There are still options for you and still many kids out there just dying to find a loving home like yours. I'm sorry your having such a hard time. I hope your prayers are answered.
megelizabeth
megelizabeth
I understand your frustrations, but know that there is so much hope in adoption. I have several friends who have suffered through years of infertility that are a guiding light to me because they are now all going through the adoption process. It shows that even when our bodies fail us there is still hope, and there are so many children out there that need a family. I hope that this process can bring joy into your life, and that you get the perfect child that you were meant to have.
YvonneKB
YvonneKB
I'm so sorry for all that you've been through (and continue to go through). Have you thought of embryo adoption? It's less expensive than regular adoption as well as egg donor cycles as well.
bodybuildo
bodybuildo
Dont be sad dear ... so sorry to hear this :(
heretochat
heretochat
Dear, mysweetbaby! I'm so sorry you're feeling all this!!
If only words of support could do miracles. We're in the same diagnosis. I have diminished ovarian reserve too. I'm 41 yo struggling for a baby for 2 years. My lovely half came too late to my life, so now we have to look on DE as the only way out. I wanna make my man happy by giving him a son. But it seems still a long way ahead to pass. I'm not sure I understood your protest against DE..Is that you are absolutely for a baby biologically related to you?? Or there are some other obstacles, if you don't mind me asking of course.
We applied for treatment in Ukraine, Biotexcom clinic. We booked 5 att de ivf there as they give guarantee. In case of 5 negatives they refund the money paid. Meds are also included into the price so we have a great hope this is the winning variant.
Dear, lovely you, may God help you on this painful path. Do not lose hope, I'm sure it's not your destination.
May all the best happen to you this year xx
deedeest
deedeest
Hi, girls! We are all in the same boat(( Just some of us are more strong to continue our attempts. I dont understand the attitude to eggs donation. For infertile couple it is real option to have a baby. May be you still have no imagination how to live in silence, without babies lough. I was weak enough to agree for donation. I couldnt let my hubby live without children. Actually it was not his fault to love infertile woman. And you know it is much more frighten not to have an opportunity bear a child. Just imagine some strange woman has your child inside, and you dont feel movements or hiccuping. And finally those women go for surrogacy. Cause they are too weak live childless life. It is not terrible to have biologically strange child, but live without children Just think, everything can be better. I wish you good luck and not give up.