I am so very sorry {{{HUG}}}. If you really feel you are not up for going (and I COMPLETELY understand why) then I guess the only way to get out of it at this point is to say you don't feel well. Unless you feel comfortable being honest about it (which could be awkward). I too hate the IF robs us of the ability to feel nothing but complete joy when we receive a pregnancy announcement. It is normal to feel how you do though. I wish I could take your pain away, but we are all here for you to help you through.

Dearest Momhopes, oh do I know how you are feeling right now. There are 7 women at my job that are pregnant, well only 5 now that 2 of them had their babies this week. I am surrounded by them every day I come to work and it is agonizing. I feel your pain and I understand 100% what you are going thru. But I am very close with these women as I assume you are very close with your friends, and they are respectful when I say to them, "thats enough girls" and I walk away from them when I find them talking incessantly about their pregnancies and babies. Sometimes, as awkward as it may be, its better just to be honest with your friends and tell them what your feeling. I wear my heart on my sleeve tho too so I always find relief in letting it go and telling people all thats going on. Perhaps you could just say, "I think I'm going to have to opt out of going to movie night. I'm feeling really down about my IF and seeing you girls pregnant and having babies just makes me feel alone. I wont' feel like this forever, and I'm not angry with any of you, I'm just not in a good place this week". IF is a rollercoaster ride, some days we feel strong and hopeful, and other days we couldn't get much lower. You will get to a place where you feel good about being around your pregnant friends, you'll accept the current circumstances, and you can always excuse yourself from a conversation when it gets too intense. If they are your friends, and I'm sure they love you, they will understand.
Courage, Strength, and Hope
Marisa

i agree with Marisa. When i was that ONE last person not pg in my fam/friends circle I felt better avoiding those situations for awhile. It seems to me i felt better once they were further along. Like, i accepted it by then and could get over it. dunno, weird i guess. But i do remember not hanging out with / talking to one friend when she first found out but later on after she got bigger i was fine and she let me be a part of things which usually helps me. i guess living vicariously through them helped. I certainly got a lot of useful second hand experience!

I agree with Marisa...just tell them that you love them, that you're happy for them, but right now its just really tough for you to see them at that happy place. Tell them you appreciate their understanding and you just need some time to get used to it and you'll be ready to rejoin the group. Or make a joke of it, wear a pillow under your shirt and when they gawk at you, go "What? I didn't want to be the odd man out!!!" lol sorry i usually look for the funny way out :)

GL in whatever you decide to do. Your DS sisters are here if you skip the movie...we'll hang with you :)

I agree I don't go some places and have missed many a dinner with friends. It is self preservation not selfishness. Sick at the last minute. Please know that you are not alone. Praying for your miracle very soon.

Momhopes-
I literally wrote nearly the same posting just over a week ago. My two friends from high school and I was also in your position. I stressed and cried about it all week, worried about what i should do. I ended up breaking down right before I had to go to my husband, and he told me to cancel. Infertility is hard enough and it is just so much harder when it's in my face and I have constant reminders. I ended up going and there were times of laughing but also uncomfortable moments; breastfeeding conversations and they made plans in front of me for a baby play date... To be honest, I should not have went. I knew in my heart that I shouldn't go, but I went only because one of my friends is moving away. If you feel like you can't go, I wouldn't put yourself through it. You could be honest with your friends, if you want. But if you just don't want to go there, you can always say you aren't feeling well or your parents are having a dinner that night... Do whatever is less stressful on you.

MomHopes- Hang in there. I feel for you and understand you completely. All of the women here have felt the exact things you are feeling. We are all in this together... Sounds really weird and sappy, but kind of true...

Thanks everyone for your replies. Tonight was the night of our plans. I skipped the dinner and just met them at the movie. I figured they wouldn't be talking about baby stuff during the movie. It went well, the only bad thing is that there is a movie coming out called "Babies". The preview seemed to last forever and was nothing but babies, babies babies. Once there were giant words on the screen that read "THE BABIES ARE COMING". I couldn't believe it. The entire audience including my friends were ooing and awing. Uggg...that was the last thing I wanted to see!!

Everytime another couple we know annouces they are expecting I get a gut renching feeling of jealousy, envy, sadness, every emotion but happiness. I do everything I can to avoid seeing them. We've even started to get the pity calls from expecting parents, "we wanted to let you know first because of your situation". WTF!
I hate being "that couple".

Hi-5!
Welcome to the team!!

(I'm trying to be uplifting)

I am so, so with you. I am now the only one of two of my friends who have not had a baby, and the other one happens to be to concerned about her body being ruined to want to get pregnant.

It sucks!

And I also hate how very common everyone else is making breeding seem, there just isn't anyone who's single and childless anymore.
Where have all the good time girls gone...oh married with children..yes plural, they've had 2 since I settled down.

Bastards, so fucking selfish the lot of them!!
Really, who the hell do they think they are to be breeding before I have, do they not know any better, they are undeserving people who will never know hardship, and I for one have such an abundance of it there's enough to share...just that I wouldnt wish my 10years+ of trauma, tragedy and tears on my worst enemies.

FFS!!
When will it end!>?!

Sorry to rant like a loony on your post, just had to let it out a little.